A young woman was posted on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole (AITA) this week to ask if she is being unreasonable not inviting her sister to her wedding. The woman’s sister is not invited because she does not believe that marrying her fiancé is a good idea.
While you may be thinking about what the original poster’s (OP’s) sister has against the wedding, details that justify her being against the marriage are revealed.
The OP says she met her partner six months ago, and they have been engaged for one month. The love affair seems perfect, with the OP describing her partner, Derrick, as her soulmate. Feeling ready to commit, the couple is busy planning their wedding and telling their friends and family about their marriage.
While the OP’s sister initially responded to congratulate the happy couple, she later shared her concerns about how fast things were moving. This led to an argument in which the OP said that her sister would not be invited to the wedding.
The OP has been ignoring her sister’s text messages, and she and her fiancé are busy planning the big day without the sister attending. A friend pointed out to the OP that she may be being unreasonable and should talk to her sister about it all, which led to the AITA post.
It was clear from the many comments on the post that the OP was being an a**hole as people commented, “YTA. You have not known him long enough to love him; you are infatuated.”
While some agreed that the time they had known each other is an issue, another said, “The age gap is a little sus too. There’s usually a lot of growth between 23-30. It’s not the worst regarding the gap, but it raises eyebrows.”
With many people scratching their heads at how drastic the OP was, some wondered if religion was a factor, saying, “I wonder if they are Christian or evangelical because “We are ready to commit to each other fully.” With this in mind, some posters believe that support is needed for the OP to understand true love.
One commentator could identify when they said, “I have a friend who has been in love with “the one” three different times. She’s 27. We are working on her understanding of the concept “if he’s the right one right now, he will still be the right one if you wait a year or so.”
There was some serious concern from some readers of the thread, worried that she does not know what she is letting herself in for when they pondered, “One of the MAJOR red flags of an abusive partner is rushing a relationship. It’s super concerning….”
Considering the sister’s views, one person said, “It sounds like your sister just wants what is best for you.” Another urged the OP to think about the consequences of her actions, asking, “are you ready to ruin the relationship with your sister for a guy you do not know?”
While it is clear that neither the OP nor the sister is happy, a Reddit reader pointed out: “People that believe they have found “the one” after such small periods are the reason divorce lawyers never have trouble finding work.”
We hope that by being deemed the a**hole, the OP reflects on some people’s opinions. We hope she is happy whatever she chooses to do and that her sister is part of her life.