OP is a 30-year-old vegan who has been vegan for six years but has never pushed his beliefs on anyone, including his girlfriend and meat-eating family.
OP Invited Old Friend to Dinner
Recently, OP invited an old friend, who wanted to go to a BBQ restaurant, to dinner.
OP Suggests Veggie/Vegan Diner
OP suggested vegetarian and vegan restaurants.
He Insists on Meat-Centric
But the friend was unhappy with the idea and insisted on going to a meat-centric restaurant.
OP Agrees
OP reluctantly agreed but told his friend he would not pay for his meal.
Friend Orders Premium Steak
During dinner, OP ordered sides, while his friend had a premium quality ribeye steak that cost 50 euros.
OP Refuses to Pay for Friend
At the end of the meal, OP refuses to pay for his friend’s meal.
The Friend Gets Angry
Causing his friend to become angry and accuse OP of being a bad friend.
They’ve Not Spoken Since
The two have not spoken since.
Was He Wrong Not to Pay?
OP is questioning whether they were in the wrong for refusing to pay for their friend’s meal.
Online Community Questions Real Intentions
Various, rightfully skeptical online users are questioning the real intentions of the friend’s response to the situation.
“I mean c’mon. That wasn’t a joke. He is just pretending not to understand because he wants to be a mooch and either split the bill or have OP buy them a steak. Hoping for a free steak honestly seems like their ulterior motive in suggesting a place like this rather than a vegetarian restaurant. They are not a friend.”
Online Forum Supports This Idea
There was great support for this comment in the thread. They suggest that the OP’s friend did not believe they should split the bill fairly.
Steak Restaurants Are Expensive
Steak restaurants are considered among the most expensive one can go to for a meal universally.
Friend Just Satisfying His Needs
Never mind that the restaurant didn’t serve meat; OP’s friend specifically brought OP to a steak restaurant to satisfy his needs.
Not a Friend at All
It appears to be an apparent ploy, according to the commenter, that the friend was, in fact, no friend at all. They were deliberately trying to dupe the OP out of their money to pay for their expensive meal.
Op Taken Advantage Of
In this commenter’s eyes, it would be impossible for OP’s friend not to do this deliberately. They have taken advantage of them and should face repercussions.
Split the Bill
Generally, when people go out for a meal, it is acceptable to split the bill if they have had effectively the same experience.
Or Follow Basic Etiquette
Otherwise, there are some basic etiquette rules for dealing with alternative scenarios.
“Even if you hadn’t ethical reasons or other reasons not to eat meat, it’s essential, typical politeness – when splitting the bill – take dishes that are more or less equal in value.”
Pay Fair
“If I get a €7 pizza and a bottle of water, and another person gets €35 and a Chardonnay, why should I pay for their expensive lunch?”
This commenter notes that regardless of the ethical reason for choosing a particular restaurant, the essential requirement to pay the bill takes precedence.
It’s Not Fair
They make an excellent comparison between two people at the same restaurant purchasing two entirely different options, drastically impacting the end bill. In this case, it cannot be expected that the person who bought substantially less valuable items to pay for half of this bill.
Basic Manners
Therefore, this issue is really just basic manners, regardless of the restaurant they were in. Each should pay their proportional fair share of the meal.
He Was Warned
Before OP and their friend entered the BBQ restaurant, OP made their intentions clear.
“NTA You told him in advance. He doesn’t sound like much of a friend.”
OP Would Not Pay Half
This is a very important point. The discussion about the bill was made before the meal, where they agreed that OP would not be paying half.
Argument Pre-Planned
Therefore, the argument at the end of the meal was almost certainly pre-planned in order to ensure that the OP would feel uncomfortable and pay for half of their friend’s expensive meal. As they note, it does not sound like much of a friend at all.
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