Fans of Am I The A**hole (AITA) had their heartstrings pulled this week when they read of a man who detailed his tough life growing up with an alcoholic father.
The original poster (OP) told readers that his mom moved 3 hours away for work. His dad was sent little money to bring him and his siblings up, which often meant fending for themselves and only having enough money for the essentials.
He Grew Up in Poverty
As a result, life for him often led to rummaging through dumpsters to feed himself and his sibling.
Now in adulthood with a lovely family and a good job, readers were pleased to learn that he no longer struggled for money. However, he was still cautious with what he spent.
Being frugal with his money also makes him mindful of what he is wasting, particularly when it comes to food. This is perfectly understandable, as though he went through challenging circumstances growing up, and it is bad taste to waste food.
However, we soon learned that his wife needed to be more careful regarding food waste, often throwing out food due to overbuying at Costco.
Rather than see food go to waste, the family bought chickens who could eat any food waste. All was well for a while until the OP’s wife began buying even more food, which resulted in whole cucumbers, lettuce, and loaves of bread being put in the trash.
He Took Matters Into His Own Hands
Infuriated by this, the OP took items out of the trash and began cooking a meal for the family. After commenting on the delicious meal, the OP told his wife that the food was what she had put in the trash, and she was not happy.
The OP says his wife was ‘completely mortified’ and felt he had abused their family by feeding him food out of the trash, cueing his post to AITA.
It is safe to say that there was some element of sympathy for the poster, with one person saying, “ Wife should also not throw away good food imo” and another saying, “Maybe a little underhanded, but I also grew up poor, and this would not have phased me at all.”
However, he was overwhelmingly voted the a**hole. One person linked this to his childhood experience, saying, “YTA You need to find ways for you to heal from your childhood trauma without digging food out of the trash. Just because you were okay this time doesn’t mean that wasn’t a bad decision, especially feeding it to your family without their consent.”.
Another poster felt that he was merely trying to prove a point saying, “He wasn’t actually concerned about food waste. He did this to prove a point. The act of it is bad enough, but the fact he did it to them without consent makes this one a huge YTA”.
This is how many people read into the whole scenario. One person noted, “Can we also talk about him apparently checking the trash regularly to see if his wife isn’t throwing things out he deems still edible? What kind of level control freak is that?”.
Most people on the thread could not understand how he would risk his family’s health, pointing out that “Bruh, you do NOT **** with lettuce. Op is lucky he didn’t give his family E Coli. Even if it was still good when his wife threw it out, IT WAS SITING IN THE GARBAGE AT ROOM TEMPERATURE ALL DAY.”
It is safe to say that while there is an element of sympathy for the OP. He needs to work better at communicating with his wife to come to some compromise on the amount of food they buy.