A Memphis mom of 11 with children from eight different fathers has reached out to her TikTok fans to ask people to quit making assumptions about her.
To defend her lifestyle, 36-year-old Phi claims she is constantly trolled for having many children with different men and points out that she would not be getting so much thrown at her if she were a man.
She says in one video, “Men can have multiple baby mamas, and no one bats an eye, but I get talked about for having multiple baby daddies.”
phieudoraa regularly posts on her TikTok account to talk about the double standards women face and how she shouldn’t be brandished with derogatory names when men doing the same would be praised for having so many partners.
One TikTok user replied to her video saying, “I loved my kids so much I gave them their own daddies 😂🤸🏻♀️💁🏼♀️”
Another said, “at this point, you don’t even need Jesus. You need birth control and condoms, lol,” in response to another video in which she talks about taking no s**t from the eight baby daddies.
Others question how the kids feel about this, saying, “Those poor kids 🥺 that must be confusing and sad.”
In one of her latest videos, she replies to the questions about how she deals with so many men in her life, saying, “I don’t need them for anything” (regarding the daddies).
She goes on to say that she doesn’t let them raise their voice at her, allow them to leave her children with strangers, or take questions about what clothes they are sent. She also talks about how much she cares for her children and looks after them well.
Why do many people dis Phi’s lifestyle? She says, “Speak for yourself ’cause I love it here!” In one of her most viewed videos, Phi works out the maths of it all when she tells viewers, “Let me explain it, If you have one and you take away one, you have zero, but if you have eight and you take away three, you still have five.”
She is trying to explain that she will get some support. Still, as many people have pointed out, she is going from one relationship to the next, and things are not working out.
One person said, “How does this happen? Like why did you want this many? No disrespect, pure curiosity? Like, is it not exhausting?’
While Phi gets a lot of stick on her social media accounts, she does have a lot of fans, with one saying,” My favorite baby mama” and another saying, “Lmao, I love you!! I laughed way too hard at this haha” about another post about people having a go at her lifestyle.
There is also a lot of support from women who comment on how much of a good mom she must be, with one saying, “I thought my 3 was bad, lol you’re beautiful.” Another saying is, “I respect that so much they look happy.”
This is a classic case of not having a go at someone when you have not stood in their shoes. While having eight baby daddies is not for everyone, nor is having 11 children, it appears from her videos that her family is happy and healthy and that Phi is doing what she can to live her best life.
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