OP has been dating Will for a few months, and she really likes him. They see each other every weekend but don’t live together. When Will asked OP what they had scheduled on a Friday, she said she was hosting a Girl’s Night In (GNI) since it was her turn. Will didn’t know what that meant and asked OP to clarify. When she did, he got upset and went on a rant about how he believed such events were obsolete, toxic, and misogynistic.
She Couldn’t Believe What She Heard
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OP was shocked by his reaction and tried to explain that she just wanted to spend time with her girlfriends.
He Wanted to Go Out and Take His Friends
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Will suggested they go out together and even tried to bring his friends along, but OP refused, saying that this was not how GNIs worked.
He Called Her Sexist and Misogynistic
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Will then called OP sexist and misogynistic for having a GNI and making it so obvious. He also warned her that her mentality could cause issues in her future professional life.
They Argued, and He Hung Up
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OP was blown away by Will’s reaction and argued with him some more. Eventually, he hung up on her, and OP tried to apologize later, but Will texted back.
He Needed Time to Process Her Personality!
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Saying he was hurt by how she handled their disagreement and needed time to process what he had just found out about her personality.
Is She at Fault?
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OP is torn because she values her friendship and bond with her girlfriends and doesn’t want to risk it any longer by being part of their bonding activities. She wonders if she’s the one at fault for making this her “hill to die on,” as Will put it.
The Tantrum Is a Red Flag
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Few in the thread can understand OP’s partner’s reaction to such a typical occasion for OP to enjoy.
“Not the jerk, how is girls’ night sexist?? No offense, but you’ve said that you’ve only been dating a couple of months, and he throws a tantrum over you not picking him over spending time with your friends. That’s a red flag.”
It’s an Enormous Overreaction
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This is firstly incredulous at the idea that OP could be referred to as sexist. She is enjoying a night in her home with her friends. There is no connection to sexism of any kind, so it appears to be a bizarre and enormous overreaction.
He’s Trying to Manipulate Her
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Moreover, it appears to this reader that OP’s partner is simply doing this as a means of objecting to not getting his attention. In doing so, he is being incredibly irrational and insulting, potentially as a means to manipulate her decisions.
It Speaks Volumes!
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This is considered a huge red flag, indicating that it is the beginning of a lot of strange and toxic traits and opinions of her partner. It speaks volumes about who they may end up being.
He’s Gaslighting You!
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Some commenters are very concerned for OP, hoping that this relationship will not last much longer.
“Yikes. He is gaslighting you… and it works! You did nothing wrong, yet you were the one apologizing.
You Should Not Be With Him
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“Girl, you are not the jerk at all. This guy is manipulative. You should not be with someone who treats you like that.”
He’s Stirring up the Drama!
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The commenter is accusing Will of gaslighting OP. This is a means of stirring up drama and belittling someone into feeling guilty about something they have no need to. He is doing this by being needlessly offended in order to make OP feel bad and apologize.
It’s an Effective Tool That Manipulators Use
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It is a very effective tool of a manipulator, and it appears to be somewhat working on OP if they are willing to question if what they are doing is wrong. It is a serious issue that has happened very early on in the relationship.
You Should Leave Him ASAP
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This commenter is rightfully suggesting that she uses this as a reason to leave him ASAP.
He’s Beyond Controlling
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Beyond Will’s overreaction, there is another detail of the story that was not missed by many of the readers:
“I barely made it past that little tidbit. He has her passwords?! There was no way the post was getting better after that. This post also screams for her age to be added. Not the jerk.”
It’s All Very Concerning – He Needs to Go!
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This thread participant is very concerned simply that this man has all of OP’s passwords to their social media. This in itself is bad enough to suggest that he needs to go. However, it might be more normal for couples who have been together for a long time. They have only been together for a few months, which makes it much more concerning.
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