OP (25F) is an employee at a small company of about 15 people. Although she gets along with most of her colleagues, she has some problems with Alexis (40F), who is very socially traditional. OP tries to avoid discussing sensitive topics, but they sometimes come up and cause quarrels.
She Went To The Toilet
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One day, OP used the bathroom right after it was cleaned and didn’t bother putting the toilet seat down because she was going to squat to pee.
She Bumped Into Alexis on the Way Out
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When she exited the bathroom, she bumped into Alexis and apologized, thinking nothing of it.
Alexis Displayed a Sanctimonious Attitude Towards Her
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However, for the next two weeks, Alexis seemed particularly sanctimonious towards her.
Alexis Accused Op of Being Transgender
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During a lunch conversation about women’s sports, Alexis made a comment about “people like OP ruining them for everyone else.” Confused, OP asked if she meant tall people, but Alexis clarified that she was referring to “women” who are still biologically men.
OP Is Cisgender
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OP was shocked and clarified that she is a cisgender woman and not transgender.
But She Left the Toilet Seat Up
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Alexis insisted that she saw OP come out of the bathroom with the toilet seat up and accused her of being transgender.
Alexis Didn’t Believe Her Reason
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OP explained that she had simply squatted to pee, but Alexis wouldn’t believe her.
OP Made a Joke and Alexis Burst Into Tears
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OP made a joke about whether Alexis parks her bare butt on public toilet seats, which made Alexis burst into tears and leave the room.
OP’s Coworkers Thought She Was Rude
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After the incident, some of OP’s coworkers thought she was rude for “exposing” Alexis, but OP doesn’t think she did anything wrong.
She Went to Talk to HR
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She later realized that the situation could have been much worse if she had actually been transgender and decided to talk to HR about it.
OP Has OCD
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Additionally, OP disclosed that she was diagnosed with OCD, which makes her reluctant to sit on public toilet seats due to germ and contamination concerns.
Comments Were Strong
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It is clear to most of the thread that Alexis is very much the person with issues in this situation.
Some Find It Displeasing When Victims Assert Themselves
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“A lot of these people will become unreasonably hurt or offended in these situations when their victim stands up for themselves. It’s a defense mechanism. They make themselves the victim when they are the attacker.”
It’s Typical of Those Who Can’t Take Criticism
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This is a common problem associated with people who are trying to push their opinions. This reader explains that this style of behavior is typical of those who are unable to take criticism, even if they very much deserve it.
It’s Good That OP Stuck up for Herself
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In this instance, the writer claims that this textbook behavior is being exhibited by Alexis. Although it may have caused issues in the short term, it is good that OP was able to stick up for herself effectively.
There Was No Need for Her to Cry
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“NTA There is no reason to be bothered by people knowing whether you squat or sit on the toilet – your comment was simply a reply to her rudeness and was not reason enough for her to be affected by tears.
She was out of line, you were not.”
Alexis Made False Rumors
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This reader firmly believes that what you give, you should be able to take. Regardless of one’s toilet habits, it is unreasonable to call someone out or make assumptions on little to-know information. In doing so, Alexis made false rumors about OP and then had to face the consequences of being challenged.
She Got Very Upset at a Simple Joke
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In the process, she got upset as a very simple joke was made at her expense, according to this person. Therefore, OP should feel comforted that they acted fairly and Alexis got exactly what she deserved.
Both Sides Could Have Acted More Appropriately
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Many are noting that both sides of this argument could have acted more appropriately.
OP Shouldn’t Have Shamed People for Toilet Habits
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“You, because you shamed someone for sitting in a public restroom. People are entitled to sit or squat, I personally sit and even though it’s weird to think about, I don’t care in the end. You’ll only get a soft YTA for that.”
Alexis Shouldn’t Have Outed You
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“Alexis, because she’s clearly transphobic, and even if you were trans, she completely ‘outed you’ in front of coworkers and acted like she solved the world’s greatest mystery.”
We Should Always Treat Co-workers With Respect
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Ultimately both parties could have acted more reasonably and respectfully in this situation. Although there is fault on both sides, it is always important to treat co-workers with respect. Hopefully, they are both willing to see reason and move on from these comments.
HIS HOA DEMANDS THE REMOVAL OF SECURITY CAMERAS: THEIR OVERSIGHT TRIGGERS A LEGAL BACKLASH, ENTRAPPING THEM IN A RIDICULOUSLY EXPENSIVE LOOPHOLE!
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A couple bought surveillance cameras to monitor their property, which inadvertently waged a costly war with their HOA.
She Demands Her Brother Share His Daughter’s Inheritance With Her Stepdaughter – Who Wasn’t Bequeathed Anything!
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When it comes to family dynamics, few things can stir up emotions, quite like inheritance disputes. A contentious situation has emerged in an unfolding saga that tests the bonds of blood and challenges the concept of fairness. At the center of this narrative stands a sister who adamantly demands her brother to share his daughter’s inheritance with her stepdaughter, who, to her dismay, was not bequeathed anything.
HE ISSUES AN ULTIMATUM: IN-LAWS MUST VACATE OR HIS DAUGHTER’S DOOR REMAINS LOCKED IN A HEART-WRENCHING POWER STRUGGLE
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OP’s brother-in-law, Sammy, moved in with his twin daughters, Olivia and Sloane, after losing his home due to a divorce. OP’s daughter, Zoey, is 16 years old and gets along fine with her cousins, but they do not respect her privacy.