OP is engaged with a Spanish man whose family speaks perfect English but usually excludes her in their conversations. OP has learned to accept this but is upset with how her future sister-in-law treats her.
She Wants Quality Time With Her Brother
The sister always asks for quality time with her brother without OP, even when they are visiting Spain and OP has no one else to spend time with.
She Refuses to Smoke Elsewhere
The sister is also a smoker and refuses to smoke elsewhere when OP is present, even when eating together.
Not Invited on Family Holiday
OP was also told by her fiancé that the sister asked him not to bring OP on a family trip, saying that it would be better without her.
Sister Says They Should Break Up
The sister has interrupted conversations between OP and her fiancé and advised him to break up with OP multiple times, spreading lies about her to the family.
Does Not Want to Invite Her to the Wedding
OP does not want to invite the sister to their wedding and wonders if she is the one in the wrong.
Readers Weigh In
There appears to be a vital character in this story that is missing. Many in the thread have highlighted that the OP’s fiance is the person who is acting improperly.
You Have Fiance Problems
“NTA You don’t have a future SIL problem or in-laws problem. You have a fiancé problem! He should be asking the family to include you in conversations. He should ask his sister to keep away from you with her cigarettes.”
He Should Have Your Back
“He should have your back. He doesn’t.”
Put Your Relationship on Hold
“Put this relationship on hold, at the very least. Reconsider it carefully.”
The Community Agree
Several readers share this sentiment. The primary line between the nasty in-laws and the OP is her fiance. Therefore, they ask why he is not a more prominent story member.
She is the one with the authority to have OP’s back. It is very unfair that she is being treated with such disrespect, and he seems to be doing nothing about it.
He Should Challenge Family’s Behavior
This is a comment on how the relationship will manifest in the future too. If he is unwilling to challenge his family’s behavior, then he is enabling, which will inevitably lead it to get worse.
She Should Take Some Responsibility
There is a small section of the thread that suggests that the OP should take some responsibility for what is happening. It is not that they are suggesting that she is to blame for their terrible actions but for remaining in the ongoing situation.
Why Are You Marrying This Man?
“Why are you marrying a man who allows his family to treat you like this!”
Open Your Eyes and Move On
“If they hate you that much, it’s probably for things he has told them about you. Open your eyes and move on!”
She Needs to Take Charge
Clearly, this reader knows that it is not OP’s fault. However, OP needs to take charge of her situation. She is walking into this situation with her eyes open, knowing that the situation is not good and is only getting worse. OP must acknowledge that this could be walking into a difficult situation.
The Heart of the Problem
The crux of OP’s situation is that she does not want her sister-in-law to attend her wedding. However, this is a futile attempt to deal with the situation.
Her Feelings Are Valid
“Soft YTA. Your feelings toward your fiance’s sister are valid, and you’re entitled not to want her at your wedding. But you can’t invite the groom’s sister and certainly can’t refuse to do so. Maybe exclude his third cousin who’s a bit ‘off’ but not a sibling.”
It Will Only Make Things Worse
This would not work. OP’s fiance has no issue with the way his family is acting. Removing his sister from the wedding will only make things worse, and it is ultimately not a good idea to try and exclude a close member of her potential husband’s family.
OP Is Immature – It’s a Petty Punishment
Many have suggested that the OP is quite immature about how she deals with the situation, even if she is not to blame. OP needs to accept that she should not be going to resolve the problem with such a petty attempt at punishing OP’s sister-in-law.
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She Demands Her Brother Share His Daughter’s Inheritance With Her Stepdaughter – Who Wasn’t Bequeathed Anything!
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