OP, a 24-year-old woman, got engaged to Derrick, a 30-year-old man, after knowing each other for six months. However, her sister, who was initially supportive, expressed concerns about their engagement, saying that OP was too young and could meet someone she loved more. OP was hurt by her sister’s comments, as she felt they were implying that her love for Derrick was not important. She asked her sister directly if she supported the marriage, and when her sister said no, she told her she should not come to the wedding if she didn’t support the marriage.
OP and Derrick have decided not to invite her sister to the wedding. However, OP’s friend suggested that it might be rude not to invite her sister. OP is asking whether she is an a**h*** for not inviting her sister. It is understandable that OP is hurt by her sister’s lack of support, but cutting her sister out of the wedding may be an extreme reaction.
Love in Only 6 Months
Redditors have taken to their keyboards to address this difficult situation. In this instance, many have suggested that OP is being quite impulsive and unreasonable:
“YTA. You have not known him long enough to love him, you are infatuated. On top of that, you are ready to ruin the relationship with your sister for a guy you do not know?”
It is a very good point considering the circumstances, and many agree with OP’s sister. She may not have approached the subject correctly. However, she still has a valid argument.
The act of not allowing OP’s sister to attend the wedding will almost guarantee that their ongoing relationship will be strained for a considerable period. Unfortunately, it appears to Redditors that the sister is willing to throw away her relationship for a man she effectively just met.
She is Acting Like a Child
OP’s sister’s reaction has not gone well with the thread participants. Unfortunately, they are unwilling to see why her sister would act in such an immature manner:
“Yeah, OP, you need to understand… your sister is “right” here, her concerns are valid, and you pushing her away because of them is an even bigger red flag.
You’re dating a man several years older than you and are getting married within six months of KNOWING each other, and now you’re considering blacklisting members of your family, i.e., isolation. Like red flags all over the place.”
These commenters are getting angry. They highlight that the sister is not acknowledging that OP has valid concerns that should be seriously addressed. If she did take them seriously, she would either see reason or reaffirm that she is going down the right path.
Moreover, they are making another significant unmentioned point in the OP’s post. Why is a man six years her senior also convinced that getting married so soon is a great idea?
Beyond this, he may also have manipulated or been party to the decision to leave OP’s sister out of the wedding. This is highly suspect behavior often associated with people with the worst possible intentions.
Maybe It Is The Right Decision
There is a section of the thread who have advocated for the OP’s position:
“NTA. It’s your wedding, and you should t feel obligated to invite anyone you don’t want there. That being said, it sounds like your sister is correct, and you should probably take a step back from this whole thing and assess.”
Although they don’t necessarily agree with OP’s logic, they stand by her decision to do as she wants. In essence, they believe she is entitled to react as she sees fit, as it is her special day.
However, the underlying theme of these comments is to support listening to what her sister said. They suggested that she should still reflect on what her sister is saying before making an irrational decision that she will not be able to go back on.