A woman reached out to followers of Am I The A**hole (AITA) on Reddit to ask if she was unreasonable about not wanting her husband to walk his sister down the aisle.
She explained that her sister-in-law was estranged from her father. Although they are on their way to reconciliation, she wants her brother to walk her down the aisle on her special day.
From what the original poster (OP) said, the sister and brother are very close and see each other several times a week.
As her sister-in-law, known as Beth, had invited her father to the wedding, the OP assumed that the father would walk the bride down the aisle.
Despite Beth insisting that “she wants him to take no part in the wedding.” The OP disagreed with Beth not wanting her father to walk her down the aisle, insisting that “This role isn’t for her older brother but her father” and worrying that her father-in-law would be upset by being left out.
The OP faced opposition from her husband when she told him Beth’s decision was wrong and was dismayed when her husband said she was being unreasonable.
The OP cannot understand why her sister-in-law wants her brother to walk her down the aisle. In contrast, her husband is honored at the thought of it. This has led to severe arguments, with all parties struggling to end the conflict.
Reaching out to AITA for some guidance on a solution, the OP found that she had little sympathy from people. One person stated that “There was no conflict except for YOUR (unwanted) opinion,” and others agreed, saying, “I fully sympathize with the siblings here, and OP needs to butt the hell out of it.”.
The OP’s post backfired with many pressing sympathies for the siblings rather than her. One commentator said, “I don’t understand your problem. It’s her wedding. She can ask whoever she likes. She does not need your permission or your approval”.
These thoughts were shared by many other people who could not understand why the OP would be so bothered by her husband being asked to do something so lovely.
Many people reading the post jumped to the same conclusion that the OP was jealous of her husband’s relationship with his sister.
Saying, “why are you jealous of your SIL, and why does your husband taking an integral, supportive role in her wedding make you feel threatened?”.
Others agreed that this was the crux of the issue, stating, “That’s a long way to say “I’m weirdly jealous of my husband’s close relationship with his own sister.” Massively YTA OP and concerning you can’t see why.”
While some picked up on the jealousy theory, others believed she was too bogged down with sticking to tradition when times have moved on, and people can choose to do their wedding however they want to.
One person pointed out that “Who cares what the “tradition” is? There is absolutely no reason why Beth should choose her father over her brother” and that it was “Absolutely ridiculous that you’d pick a fight over this.”.
The consensus was that the OP was the a**hole, with few defending her thoughts and actions. Whatever the reason for falling out with her husband and sister-in-law over something that does not affect her, we hope the wedding goes well, and all parties have a happy ending.
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