A professional woman sought support from fans of Reddit’s Am I The A**hole after getting into a massive dispute with her husband about her job title.
The 36-year-old explained that she decided to change her career path recently as she no longer wanted to be a nurse after the stress of everything over the past few years. She decided to train as a Marine Biologist, studying part-time while working.
His Wife Works at A Turtle Rehab Centre
Now working at a turtle rehabilitation center, the woman spoke of how content she is in her work, and it is the happiest she has felt in a long time. While you would think this woman’s life is great, she says she has a big problem with her husband, who constantly introduces her as an aquarium tour guide.
Her husband says he cannot remember her full job title, which he calls her “fake job title” as “funny.” She recalls that he did not do this when she was a nurse and is frustrated that he witnessed how hard the original poster (OP) worked to achieve a career change.
The Woman Refused to Go to Events Until He Made an Effort
After the husband insisted that every time he gets her job title wrong, it is just a mistake, the OP insisted she would not attend any events with him. He told her she was overreacting, and whenever she tried to correct him, she made him feel stupid.
The OP followed through on her threat and did not attend a recent event, which her husband was unhappy about. When everyone asked about her, the husband said it was embarrassing to participate in an event and insisted that the OP was “making a mountain out of a molehill. “
There Was A Lot of Support for The Wife
Reddit commenters quickly agreed that the OP was not the a**hole, saying, “He’s belittling you. If he continues, I would continue correcting him in front of him” and “He is undermining you in public by minimizing your work and accomplishments. Frankly, he seems insecure.”
Many others were confused about how he could not remember what his wife, the person he spends time with daily, does for work, saying, “And it’s not even like her job title is hard to conceptualize. Most people understand what a marine biologist is, and if they wanna know more, it’s not hard to say she works with turtles.’ One person said, “This is my wife. She’s a marine biologist,” Pointing out how easy it would be for him to get it right.
Attempting to undermine his wife was the central theme in the comments, with people rushing to advise on what the wife should do next. One person said, “This is my wife. She’s a marine biologist”.One person said, “He’s very intimidated and threatened by you. Such disrespect. You seem to have been very decent and patient. But enough is enough” Another said, “Introduce him as a technician… that will hurt an engineer 😂 And he will deserve it. NTA”, insinuating that he would not like it if the shoe was on the other foot.
Some people pointed out that there was a lot more going on than just the job title situation, with one person offering this advice, “He may be brushing it off as not a big deal, but reading between the lines, there’s some deeper level of disrespect. Please go to couples therapy if he will.”