To find out what women thought were the characteristics that make someone a gentleman, one online user headed to a popular forum to ask the question. We studied the best answers and put together a list of 15 features that make someone a gentleman according to women.
Treats People With Respect
Top of the list was respect. Not only should men treat people they care about and people they are hoping to date, but they should also respect all people. One woman said that if “He treats others with respect regardless of their social standing and judges people based on their actions/intentions,” it is a good sign that he is a true gentleman.
Does Not Expect Copulation
The dating game can be challenging to navigate, especially when some apps are designed purely for casual hookups. One woman said that a gentleman is “someone who doesn’t expect intimate relations when helping someone.” This seems like sound advice if you are looking for a more long-term relationship.
Kind and Considerate
One woman pointed out that a man needs to be kind and considerate to be classed as a gentleman and got a response, “Could that bar be any lower?” The answer suggested that all people should be like this, so why would these qualities define a gentleman, to which the original poster replied, “But somehow a lot of people still limbo under it lol.”
Good Manners
Like the post above, good manners should be given to any man, but as one forum user said, they are “not for getting into someone’s pants or for other selfish reasons.”
Loves Children
Being a good father or being good with children, in general, is a deciding factor for many women. One person posted, “He loves children. The way a person treats, talks to, and values kids says a lot about who they are.” This seems like pretty sound advice.
Secure in His Masculinity
When a man feels comfortable in his skin, it can be very sexy. One poster said she appreciates a man who is “secure enough in his masculinity to buy tampons and in himself to be comfortable in most situations.”
Empowering
Recognizing his partner’s strengths and abilities and encouraging them to do well is vital to one woman who said, “They will lend a helping hand and will empower your strengths.” This point was well received by others on the forum who were conscious of not getting lost in a relationship.
Integrity
A man who has integrity is essential to one woman who said, “A man who is polite and someone with a strong sense of integrity that exemplifies self-respect.” Having morals and principles is essential in relationships, especially when they can empathize with their partner’s morals too.
Wholesome
Not everyone is into bad guys; some enjoy the niceness a man can bring to a relationship. One online member said, “He’s also a little more wholesome rather than crass – at least when it comes to the treatment and discussing of ladies.” What could be more attractive?
A Spider Catcher!
A man can be as kind, respectful, and secure as he likes, but is he a gentleman if he can’t protect people from our 8-legged foes? One woman joked, “Someone who will deal with the spiders for me.” He is a true gentleman.
Apologetic
One user says that a man who “apologizes for the mistakes he might make, tried to make up for them as well and many more.” It is very important in a partner. This seems to be a very well-liked comment, as women need men who can admit when they are wrong and do not feel that they have to tread on eggshells to feel comfortable around a man.
Dignified
While some women want a modern man with values, some respect an older class of gentleman, as one woman explained when she said, “It might be old fashioned, but being a gentleman is the fastest way to my heart.”
Has Character
It is remarkable that a man adheres to the traits of being a gentleman, but having a unique character is also essential to many women. One woman says, “A man of character who is adamant about respecting the traditional rules of etiquettes, regardless of who you are or how you act.”
A Good Listener
But, one woman responded to the post by saying that a “Good listener. Pays attention.” Is the man for her? It is surprising to hear how men and women search for someone who is a good listener, which would imply that many men are not as interested in hearing what their partner has to say.
As Good as Dad
One person responded with just two words, “My Dad,” which brought a lot of smiles to the forum. When a woman has a great role model in her life, it can be difficult to find a man who lives up to his reputation.