Sometimes it’s the small things others don’t even see about a person we fall head over heels in love with.
Seventeen men from an online community examine the unique and strange things women do that they really like.
The Random Little Things
Sometimes small acts show us how much someone cares. One guy shared, “When they text you or tell you the most random thing or meme just because you crossed their mind. That confidence in showing you care for the person.” Affection doesn’t need to be all-singing and all-dancing.
A Bouncy Ponytail
So many men are a sucker for a ponytail. “I’m a casual runner. For some reason seeing the ponytail bouncing when women run or jog does something for me.”
“Ponytails in general. I hate top bun,” another user agreed. Ladies, take note.
Goofiness
When a gal can let her guard down and be playful and silly, guys go crazy for it. One user said, “When they get goofy and comfortable around you, you know that uncontrollable laugh that you are fighting to stop? That wins me.”
Awww!
Gardening
“When they’re out working in the garden. And the overalls!” one man said. And he’s not the only one. A female user confirmed, “I am a landscaper, and my hubby gets super turned on when I come home from work all dirty, smelling like sweat and grass.”
Getting Excited About Their Hobbies
Exuding genuine passion for a subject or hobby floats so many men’s boats.
“Being really excited about their hobbies is like the cutest thing ever; seeing them be excited about it, even if I don’t understand it at all.” Ladies, don’t hold back!
Morning Routine
Many women are shy about men seeing them in the morning without their hair or makeup done. No need!
“How you look in the morning. No makeup, comfy clothes, sipping coffee,” one user confessed.
Kindness
The ‘treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen’ narrative is a myth – on both sides of the fence. On the contrary, compassion, empathy, and decency go a long way with the menfolk.
“I’m attracted to kindness. When I see a girl being kind to someone, it really makes me interested in her…”
Being a Dork
Just as gals love a dorky guy, guys love a dorky gal! Don’t be afraid to release that inner geek, ladies!
“Knew an officer in my first unit in the army. She was hot but dorky as hell. I was quite fond of her. Being only 21 at the time, she did a lot to demystify women for me.”
Taking The Lead
Society tells us all that men love to take the lead because that’s what they’re hardwired to do – but let’s debunk this right now. One fellow explained, “Leading every once in a while. I enjoy women who can take charge, despite being able to do it myself. It makes a relationship feel more balanced.”
Scars
In a time when so many of us are battling with our body image, having scars can make us that much more insecure. But fear not – many folks dig it. “My SO has scars from an operation on her tummy. She was always shy about it, worried I’d think it was ugly. I told her I loved her to bits (and loved all her bits). I don’t see the scars. I see the woman behind the scars.”
Imperfections
Again, we live in a society that shames any and all ‘flaws.’ But sometimes, the thing we’re most insecure about is a turn-on. “Some girls even look good with teeth that are out of place. Perfectly imperfect.”
Another user ultimately agreed, “This. I find perfect women do nothing at all for me. Remember the model Caprice? She looked symmetrical, like an AI or something designed for her. People always said she was hot, but I didn’t see it. Like looking at a mannequin.”
Banter
When the chemistry is right, banter can be the love language that keeps the spark alive.
“Verbally teasing. Not in an explicit way, but in a friendly, fun way. It’s super attractive,” said one user.
Gray Hair
Most women will stop at nothing to delay (or at least hide) the aging process, but many men are here for it!
“I love gray streaks. Says to me I’m older, I’m wiser, and I don’t care if you like it or not. Super hot.”
Wisdom
While a select few men like them young ‘n’ dumb, many guys find a wise woman to be quite attractive.
“When I met her, my wife’s second most appealing characteristic was what a wise old soul she is. She still helps me see the world more clearly all these years later.”
Shower Skin
Ladies could save so much money on fragrances by just rolling with their natural scent – especially post-shower: “The smell of fresh skin right after a shower is the best in the world. Forget perfume, forget makeup, forget the rest. I’m most attracted to my wife right after a shower.”
Noses That Have ‘Character’
Hollywood is to blame for the discourse that women should have little button noses to be cute. On the contrary, bring on the honkers!
“I’ve got a bit of a thing for prominent noses/noses with character. I can appreciate the conventionally attractive button too. And I don’t love all big noses; I can’t even quite nail down exactly what characteristics I find attractive in the non-button ones, but when I see one I like, I know it.”
The Zero Care Given Thing
Women who are unashamedly themselves are HOT. “In college, there was a girl in a class my friend and I took. She dressed as a hot mess. Like, I’m talking rain boots when it was 65 and sunny. She never matched, wore weird crazy socks and t-shirts, her hair was never fully done, and she had no makeup. She did not care. My friend and I were too attracted to her to try and talk to her.”