Marriage can be a blessing – but it can also suck the very soul out of you.
Phony In-laws
Naturally, many Reddit users agreed in-laws are hard work.
Phony In-laws
“Finding out that your in-laws (who put up with you and tried to act nice till you got married) are really a**holes that normal people don’t want to deal with.”
Upholding Vows
“For better or worse includes the worse. When your spouse has a chronic health issue, a mental health issue, substance abuse problems, you have committed to be there for at least a reasonable effort in carrying through it together.”
Becoming Too Complacent
“You start slacking on the little things that matter to each other. No one likes to have to remind their partner to do things they used to do automatically.”
Love Isn’t Enough
“I’m the wife that desperately tried to keep things spicy and fun only to be met years later after begging him to do the same with ‘well, I just thought saying I love you was enough.’”.
Rough Patches
“Maybe you aren’t spending enough quality time together, or not having s** enough. So you fight/bicker more. Little annoyances become bigger problems. Until you finally talk through it and things get back on track.”
Splitting the Holidays
“Having to split the holidays between the in-laws and always having someone mad because you can’t be at two places at once! Because all you want is a peaceful time.”
Additional Family Problems
“Your spouse’s family problems become yours,” one user shared.
Additional Family Problems
“My spouse definitely drew the short stick there. Her family is lovely. Mine, on the other hand…”
Socializing
“Love my wife dearly. But she got into the habit of inviting friends and family to stay over with us for a weekend, and not telling me until the invitation was already made. It took some time before I could convince her not to do that.”
Monetary Differences
“Being a saver married to a spender.”
Monetary Differences
“Find out people’s money habits in the dating phase.”
You’re Marrying the Whole Family
“Folks think I’m joking when this is the advice I give for younger folks. I’m blessed that I love my in-laws and my whole wife’s family pretty much.”
Bickering About Trivial Stuff
“In every partnership, there is a person who stacks the dishwasher like a Scandinavian architect and a person who stacks the dishwasher like a raccoon on m**h.”
Bickering About Trivial Stuff
“I’ve been holding my tongue but it irks me when my wife puts heavy items on the top rack.”
Nosy Questions
“The constant refrain of ‘when are you going to get married’ from relatives turns into a constant refrain of ‘when are you going to have kids?’”
Compromising
“I’ve been married 29 years and I absolutely adore my wife, but sometimes the compromises aren’t great. We do it out of love and devotion, but once in a while it sucks. We each have our own hobbies and interests so compromise is essential to a good marriage.”
Invasive Questions
“If you’re young, having all the extended family bug you about when you’re going to have kids.”
Invasive Questions
“You don’t have to be young for this. I’m 38 and my uterus is on its way to drying out. I still get this question ALL.THE.TIME.”
Food
“Having to decide what to eat every night for the rest of your life while trying to accommodate the other.”
Food
“‘I dunno, what do you wanna eat?’. ‘No, not that…’”.
Sharing Your Bed For The Rest of Your Life
“People look at me weird when I tell them separate blankets are the secret to a happy marriage.”
Sharing Your Bed For The Rest of Your Life
“The older I get the more I understand why my Grandparents had separate beds.”
Less/No Alone Time
“Someone’s basically in your house all the time, especially since the pandemic work at home changes. I love my husband dearly, but I just want to be alone sometimes.”
Changing Your Name
“I got married the first time when I was fresh out of undergrad, so the name changing process was relatively easy. Now that I’m established in my career with multiple degrees, academic stuff, house/car/etc under my name, the thought of changing all of that gives me hives.”
No Privacy
“Been married for 13 years. I never get to pee or shower without my husband barging in to talk to me. I just want quiet!!!!”
Less Traveling
“I’d move twice as often if I wasn’t married. We don’t have the same wanderlust.”
Less Traveling
We only stopped moving after our daughter started school. Otherwise, we’re both always itching to get the hell out of wherever we are, mostly out of boredom.”
Outdated Traditions
As a woman (who didn’t change her name), getting mail addressed to “Mrs. Husbandfirstname Husbandlastname.” I can largely deal with the last name part, but not even getting my first name is sooooooo Offred.
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