Navigating social interactions can be tricky as what we see when we first meet someone differs from who they are. While first impressions are not always black and white, we take a look at 19 signs that someone may not be a good person:
Chronic Negativity
If a person always seems to dwell on the downside of things or constantly complains, criticizes, and gossip, they may need to be friendlier. Some people don’t want themselves or others to be happy. Negativity can be contagious; being around someone who always sees the dark cloud can be draining.
Self-Absorbed and Entitled
When someone only talks about themselves and their achievements or expects special treatment, there is a good chance they are self-absorbed. This means they will have difficulty seeing things from other perspectives and have a sense of entitlement that can make it hard for others to connect with.
Disrespectful and Dismissive
Talking over others, interrupting conversations, and belittling others’ opinions are signs that someone is unpleasant. If you hear people making offensive jokes or insensitive comments, they create an unsafe environment for others.
Dishonesty and Lack of Integrity
When a person shows signs of lying and cheating, it is difficult for people to trust them. Dishonesty and lack of integrity could show personally and cross over into the workplace when they take credit for others’ work.
Emotionally Manipulative
Using guilt trips, emotional blackmail, or threatening to control others are surefire signs that someone is trying to manipulate others emotionally. Emotional manipulation is harmful and creates unhealthy power dynamics in which people will get hurt.
Two-Faced and Untrustworthy
One of the fundamental aspects of healthy relationships is trust. Being two-faced and untrustworthy breaks that trust, creating an environment of suspicion and uncertainty. This can be incredibly damaging to both personal and professional relationships.
Lack of Empathy and Compassion
Someone might temporarily struggle with empathy due to personal stress or grief, which doesn’t necessarily make them a fundamentally “bad” person. However, a chronic lack of empathy across various situations raises more concerns and could mean they are fundamentally not a good person.
Constantly Seeks Validation and Attention
If you meet someone who constantly needs reassurance and praise or fishes for compliments, they could seek validation. While this may not be a bad thing if they are feeling insecure, putting down others to feel better about themselves is a red flag.
Blames Others and Avoids Responsibility
When people struggle to take responsibility for their actions on several occasions and lean towards blaming others, you may need to be careful around them. To develop a good relationship with someone, you need to trust they will be honest with you.
Judgmental and Critical
Often, harsh judgment stems from personal insecurities or a need to feel superior. Nevertheless, always putting others down might boost one person’s self-esteem but will make the recipient of the criticism feel bad about themselves.
Unwilling to Forgive or Let Go
If someone holds on to grudges and never lets the slightest of things go, they may not be pleasant. Holding onto negativity hinders personal growth and healthy relationships, so it isn’t easy to make friends with this type of person.
Unreliable and Flaky
Having friends who are unreliable and flaky can be incredibly frustrating and detrimental to a healthy friendship. Friendship thrives on trust, and unreliability constantly breaks that trust. It isn’t easy to rely on them for support, plans, or emotional connection.
Insensitive and Inconsiderate
If you constantly feel the need to “walk on eggshells” around people, fearing their reactions or unintended jabs, it is time to question how much time you spend with them. Being insensitive and inconsiderate means a person has a chance of a genuine connection with you.
Aggressive and Hostile
Being around aggressive and hostile individuals can lead to anxiety, depression, and emotional distress. Their behavior can create a climate of fear and insecurity, impacting well-being, so staying away from this type of person is best.
Disregard rules and Social Etiquette
Refrain from disregarding rules and etiquette disrupts the smooth flow of interactions and activities. This can create chaos, confusion, and discomfort for others trying to follow established norms.
Takes Advantage of Others
When people take advantage of others by exploiting their trust, kindness, or resources for personal gain, they will struggle to be seen as good people. If someone uses you for their benefit, you should rethink your friendship.
Creates Drama and Chaos
If you are aware of someone constantly talking about the chaos in their life, they could thrive on drama at the cost of your friendship. People who stir up trouble and enjoy creating conflict are stressful to be around and are unlikely to bring positivity to your life.
Lack of Genuine Interest in Others
Individuals facing personal difficulties, such as grief, stress, or depression, might have limited emotional energy to invest in others. However, if you know somebody constantly showing a lack of interest and you are not aware of anything significant going on in their lives, they may be unkind.
Lack of Personal Growth and Self-Awareness
People focused on negativity and being unkind to others often lack awareness and personal growth. If someone seems unwilling to learn and grow, they may not be worth your time.
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