A woman shared her problem online recently about her stepdaughter, who lives abroad and misses out on family activities.
Complicated Family Dynamic.
“My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship, *Maddie (15F). Before I even met my husband, Maddie’s mother moved abroad. Maddie decided to go with her. My husband and I have been married for ten years, and we have an 8-year-old daughter *Abby.”
Intermittent Visits.
Maddie visits during the holidays.
“Maddie visits us for the whole summer and two weeks in the winter. We go to her when Abby is on spring break.”
Missing Out.
“We save big family trips for when Maddie is with us—same with any other ‘once in a lifetime’ events. However, my husband is consistently reluctant to do pretty much anything without Maddie. I tried to be patient, but it feels like we can’t do anything throughout the year until she gets there.”
He Keeps Complaining.
“For example, we live near a water park. We have season passes and take Abby throughout the summer. But my husband refuses to go until Maddie comes to stay with us. And he doesn’t want Abby to go as it’s unfair. I’ve tried discussing this with him, but he won’t budge. Sometimes I win him over, but then he complains the entire time that Maddie isn’t there.”
Taylor Swift Concert.
“Abby loves Taylor Swift, who was going to be in the area for a limited time before Maddie arrived. My mom somehow scored us tickets, and Abby was so excited. My husband said it wasn’t fair because Maddie also loves Taylor Swift, and she doesn’t get to go.”
She Can’t Make It to the Concert.
“I said I’d take both girls to another concert during the summer, as there’s going to be a few other artists that I know Maddie likes in the area. My husband said it still wasn’t fair and tried to ban Abby from going. (Because I know it will be asked, it’s not possible for Maddie to fly out for the concert. She still has school and important exams that can’t be missed.)”
She Put Her Foot Down.
“I put my foot down and said that life isn’t always going to be fair. Maddie lives in another country. She is going to miss out on things. It’s unfair to ask Abby to give up fun opportunities because Maddie can’t come.”
He Won’t Stop Whining.
“I pointed out that Maddie gets to do fun things with her mom, and Abby isn’t there (which I think is entirely fair). My husband said that’s different because his ex isn’t Abby’s mom, but he’s Maddie’s dad.”
She Refused to Compromise.
“Eventually, he could see I wouldn’t give up and said yes to the concert. My mom, Abby, and I attended, and we had a great time. It was Abby’s first concert, and she loved it.”
He Accused Her of Bullying.
“My husband says I bullied him into this and that if Maddie didn’t get to go, Abby shouldn’t. Maddie is disappointed she didn’t get to go but seems happy for her sister.”
She Asked If She Was Being a Jerk.
The woman took to a popular networking site to ask if she was in the wrong. The community spoke loud and clear.
Definitely NTA
“The longer this behavior continues, Abby will feel like Maddie is more important to their dad. He’s trying so hard to make sure Maddie doesn’t miss out that he’s making Abby miss out.”
Why Should Abby Have to Put Her Life on Hold?
“Maddie has her life with her mum plus her life with her dad, and what, Abby is supposed to sit around and put parts of her life on hold? Missing out on experiences and chances to learn and grow in the meantime. Don’t think so.”
Blatant Favoritism.
“Abby is going to question the dynamics soon enough (if not already thinking about it), which may cause friction when Abby is older. NTA, but your husband is.”
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