Let’s get candid and reveal those hidden desires that would normally make us feel ashamed to share with others. We all have those guilty pleasures that we indulge in discreetly, like a hidden stash of junk food. But today, we’re breaking the silence. We asked the internet: “What are your secret desires that you feel guilty about?” Buckle up and be ready to hear some admissions that will make you feel understood and maybe even inspired to welcome your own guilty pleasures.
Easy One
“An easy life. I know I already lead a privileged life in many ways, but I just want to quit my job, make art, and never worry about paying bills ever again.”
“Jealousy isn’t an innately bad thing. It’s a natural human emotion and helps us to figure out what we truly want in life and what we are willing to work/strive for. It’s only bad if you let it drive your actions in a negative way.
I really hate the idea that it’s a bad thing. I’m so proud of a lot of my friends, and I’m jealous of the things I’m proud of them for. In particular, a few of my friends are succeeding at building the lives they’ve always wanted, and it’s incredible to see. I’m trying to do the same, and they completely inspire me, partially because of my jealousy!”
Being Attractive
“Wanting to be found physically attractive. I know it is shallow, but I feel like I put a lot of effort into my looks yet rarely get validated for it. I think I am pretty, but I wish others would think the same.”
“I’m in my mid-20s and was only flirted with for the first time a few months ago. And even then, I have the thought that he just doesn’t know how fat I am because I was wearing a pretty baggy jacket, and that’s why no one else has ever been interested. Really sucks when people act like women are just constantly validated all the time by default.”
Karma’s a Friend
“Karma to catch up with my ex.”
“No guilt. I hope that man poops himself whenever he wears a clean pair of pants.”
“I wouldn’t feel guilty!”
End It All
“A breakup. My relationship is mostly perfect, but my guy just had an ex come into his life and tell him her three-year-old twins are his. Pending test results, we are probably breaking up because I don’t have or want any children. I feel terrible leaving him to deal with this alone, but it’s just not the life I want for myself.”
Sugar Daddy
“A rich man to marry so I don’t have to attend medical school and get a job. All I want is to be a stay-at-home wife/mom and live lavishly.”
“I’m a straight man, and I want the same thing. Also, being a homemaker is a noble lifestyle, children or not. My mother put so much of her heart into making our home a place that was safe, welcoming, and nurturing. She used her time to help so many people and helped give not just my sisters and me but so many children wonderful childhoods.”
“It is not a job many consider glamorous or noteworthy. But it’s absolutely something that deserves respect.”
Freaky Family
“To move away from my family. They are so wonderful, and I love them all so much, but I feel constricted by who they expect or think I am. They all have spouses and families of their own, but I’m alone and not happy here. I want a new adventure.
I will still do it, but the guilt makes me feel terrible.”
“As someone who moved away five years ago…do it! Best thing ever. You’ll never look back but can always go back.”
Care For Me
“I want to be a pillow princess for several scenes. I want to be cared for and cherished and for someone to plan everything for me. And then I want to eat ice cream in bed during aftercare.”
“I feel no guilt with desiring this. Like hell yeah, lol!”
Fat-Free
“A flat stomach, cellulite-free thighs.”
“I feel really bad how many beauty expectations are pushed on women. I mean, guys have some too, but I think it’s way more hard-core with women.”
“The things I would give for a flat stomach, hate being so insecure about it.”
More Money
“Money. It feels greedy.”
“Wanting money to buy unnecessarily flashy things for clout and to flex on people is greedy. Wanting money to be financially secure is just common sense. Anyone who’s even gotten close to poverty understands.”
Truly Unhappy
“A divorce. My husband is a great man and a great father. I’m just not happy.”
“So I am a man who just started therapy about two months ago for this exact reason. I almost ended my long-term relationship but realized it might just be that I was depressed and blaming her for my unhappiness. Is this something that you have personal experience with? I know I haven’t been in therapy long, but sometimes it still feels difficult to tell if the relationship is what is actually making me unhappy sometimes. Any advice or resources that may have helped others on this would be greatly appreciated.”
Dark Thoughts
“Life is hard. Most of us have been there. Sometimes I go there still, but I’ve been alive long enough now to know that feeling is temporary. And then I stay alive, try different stuff, meet new friends, and go, ‘Hey, I guess it’s pretty nice being alive right now.’ Then it happens again, but as long as I don’t act on it, I know I’ll get another good day eventually, making it feel worth it again.”
“Living is cool because it’s our only chance to be conscious of the existence of anything at all. Good or bad, being alive is the only way to see it.
Good luck!”
Terrible Transport
“An outrageous fast car. Like a hot pink Lamborghini or something. Cars like that are dumb, silly, unpractical, uncomfortable, terrible for the environment, and crazy expensive. They shouldn’t exist. They go against everything I stand for. I shouldn’t want one. But I still want one.”
Double Dogs
“Another dog. My current dog won’t approve.”
“Mood. My cat is very much an only child.”
Open Up
“An emotionally available partner. I know this is a basic level of respect. But growing up in an emotionally abusive home makes me feel like this is wanting too much from a partner.”
Being Respected
“A healthy relationship.”
“Why do you feel guilty about that?”
“Because I know I’m not ready to even be in a relationship right now. I have a lot I need to work on personally first.”
In Love
“A romantic relationship. On the one hand, I would love to have that intimacy again, but I have no idea if I can be in one again and give it my all.”
Traveling Partner-less
“Solo travel. I know we would have fun together, but there’s SO much I wanna do/see that I think my fiancée would just not appreciate, and then it’d end up just being me doing the thing alone anyway or dragging him begrudgingly.”
Better Brain
“A normal functioning brain.”
“I feel this so hard. Recently I’ve been feeling so hopeless and frustrated about being mentally ill because when you’re a teenager, they tell you you’re going to get better, and now that I’m 25 and have been through years of therapy, meds, ECT, TMS, and many long and short term hospitalizations it feels like people are just giving up. I want to get better, I hate feeling like this, and I’ve been told I have a lot of insight and self-awareness, but none of that helps me stop making the choices that are actively killing me.”
Cleaning Up
“I want to hire a maid service.”
“Do it! It’s worth every penny, even if they only come once a month! I kept the maid service even when I was unemployed!”
Living For Myself
“A life outside my spouse and children.”
“I feel this. I had last Friday off, and my husband said, ‘You have the day, DO YOU!’… I don’t even know what that means anymore. I have no idea what I like at this point in my life since it’s been so focused on family.”
Tapping In
“Sounds crazy, but to be “girly.” Like wearing dresses, getting pink stuff, fuzzy steering wheel covers, wearing cute outfits, heels, etc., it was crapped on growing up a lot, so I feel guilty and odd that I want it now. But ya know what, I know it’s something I truly love and enjoy, so I’m embracing the uncomfy feelings!”
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