A 24-year-old woman got engaged to 30-year-old Derrick after dating each other for six months. However, her originally supportive sister voiced concerns about their engagement. She said that OP was too immature and could meet someone else. These comments hurt OP, and she took it as an indication that her love for Derrick was not significant. She confronted her sister and asked her if she supported the marriage; when her sister answered no, she informed her sister not to attend the wedding if she didn’t support it.
They Have Decided Not to Invite Her Sister
OP and Derrick have decided not to invite her sister to the wedding. However, OP’s friend suggested that it might be rude not to invite her sister.
Is It a Bit Extreme?
OP is asking whether she is wrong for not inviting her sister. It is understandable that OP is hurt by her sister’s lack of support, but cutting her sister out of the wedding may be an extreme reaction.
OP Is Being Impulsive and Unreasonable
Online users have taken to their keyboards to address this difficult situation. In this instance, many have suggested that OP is being quite impulsive and unreasonable:
“You’re the jerk. You have not known him long enough actually to love him, you are infatuated. On top of that, you are ready to ruin the relationship with your sister for a guy you actually do not know?”
Many Online Users Are in Agreement With OP’s Sister
It is a very good point considering the circumstances, and many are in agreement with OP’s sister. She may not have approached the subject correctly. However, she still has a valid argument.
Their Ongoing Relationship Will Be Strained
The act of not allowing OP’s sister to attend the wedding will almost guarantee that their ongoing relationship will be strained for a considerable period of time. Unfortunately, it appears to online users that the sister is willing to throw away her relationship for a man that she effectively just met.
She’s Acting Like a Child
OP’s sister’s reaction has not gone well with the thread participants. Unfortunately, they are unwilling to see why her sister would act in such an immature manner:
“Yeah, OP, you need to understand… your sister is ‘right’ here. Her concerns are valid, and your pushing her away because of them is an even bigger red flag.
You’re dating a man several years older than you and are getting married within six months of KNOWING each other. Now you’re considering blacklisting members of your family ie, isolation. Like red flags all over the place.”
Online Users Are Getting Angry
These commenters are getting angry. They highlight that the sister is not acknowledging that OP has valid concerns that should be seriously addressed. If she did take them seriously, she would either see reason or reaffirm that she is going down the right path.
His Behavior Is Suspicious
Moreover, they are making another significant point that is going unmentioned in the OP’s post. Why is a man six years her senior also convinced that getting married so soon is a great idea?
Beyond this, he may also have manipulated or been party to the decision to leave OP’s sister out of the wedding. This is highly suspect behavior which is often associated with people with the worst possible intentions.
You Should Take a Step Back and Assess
There is a section of the thread who have advocated for the OP’s position:
“Not the jerk. It’s your wedding, and you shouldn’t feel obligated to invite anyone you don’t want there. That being said, it sounds like your sister is correct, and you should probably take a step back from this whole thing and assess.”
It’s Her Day. She Can React as She Sees Fit
Although they don’t necessarily agree with OP’s logic, they stand by her decision to do as she wants. In essence, they believe that she is entitled to react as she sees fit, as it is her special day.
Listen to Your Sister and Reflect
However, the underlying theme of these comments is to support listening to what her sister said. They suggested that she should still reflect on what her sister is saying before making an irrational decision that she will not be able to return on.
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