OP got engaged in 2018 and is finally having her wedding later this year. Her sister, who has a record of being an attention-seeking tyrant, got engaged last year and announced her wedding day to happen on the same day as OP’s.
Have a Double Wedding
After OP’s cousins chose to attend her wedding, OP’s sister and parents reached out, suggesting a double wedding to avoid her sister missing out. However, due to her sister’s past behavior, OP refused to share her special day.
Her Family Accuse Her of Being Selfish
OP’s aunts and uncles have since accused her of being selfish and a bully, claiming she could have accommodated her sister despite having the date first.
The Sister Has a History of Bad Behavior
OP’s sister has a history of making up lies about her and their cousins, actively seeking attention at the expense of others and causing trouble during celebrations. This led OP to limit contact with her sister and parents as an adult. Despite this, OP’s family believes that she should accommodate her sister, ignoring her past behavior.
OP Has Stood Her Ground
OP has stood firm in her decision, refusing to do a double wedding with her sister. Despite being accused of being nasty and selfish, OP has maintained her boundaries, choosing not to compromise on her special day due to her sister’s behavior.
Online Users Find It Unbelievable
There is a clear theme in the thread that OP’s sister is the one to blame for this mess. Commenters are incredulous at the idea that she would even attempt to have a wedding on the same day.
Who Books Their Wedding on the Same Day?
“What kind of person books their wedding the same day as their sister then demands a double wedding?
Go NC with all the ones having a go. They are enabling their behavior. Your sister is completely wrong and they all are for supporting her.”
She’s Trying to Steal the Limelight
Nothing is held back in this comment. The writer clearly has no sympathy for the sister’s actions, and rightfully so. She is trying to steal the limelight from OP for no particular reason.
The Family Are Validating Her Behavior
Additionally, the family trying to intervene and find solutions to appease the difficult sister is only validating this kind of behavior. They should support OP for standing by her decision, as she obviously has a history with her sister that warrants this kind of behavior.
OP Needs to Stand Her Ground
It is unfortunate that OP’s sister is making this situation so unbearable.
“Not the jerk. This is a hill to die on. She’s clearly chosen this date because you chose it and can’t handle you getting the attention. Your wedding is your day, not just another day your sister can steal from you because you can bet your life she’ll make sure it’s all about her.”
It’s a Good Way to Identify Who You Dont Want at Your Wedding
“While this could be hard, this is probably a good way of identifying others you may want to go low contact with. Anyone that chooses her wedding over yours is probably someone you don’t want there anyway.”
There’s Going to Be a Breaking Point
This comment accurately summarises the difficulty of the situation. Her sister appears to perform these kinds of attention-seeking behaviors regularly. Therefore, there will eventually be a breaking point, like this wedding arrangement.
OP’s Sister Will Attempt to Steal the Attention
It is clear that no matter what happens, OP’s sister will attempt to steal the attention. This means that it is more important than ever for OP to stick to her decision in defiance.
It’s Going to Be a Difficult Decision to Stick To
Rightfully, this will be a difficult decision to stick to. Although the bright side would be that whoever in the family is on her sister’s side is probably not worth having at her wedding anyway.
Her Parents Should Not Take Sides
There is another perspective suggested by an online user:
“Not the jerk, and it is weird your sister would pick the same day as you after you. Your parents then encourage her to do a double wedding. That’s weird and a little pick-me energy. My sister is just like this, and I have yet to speak to her in years.”
The Parent’s Behavior Is Unacceptable
It is very strange that the parents are willing to go along with the crazy suggestion of OP sharing her wedding day. This is not acceptable behavior, as many commenters suggest that they are well aware of what their daughter is doing.
Clearly, this person has had similar experiences and had to make the same difficult decision that the OP is facing. Maybe it’s not as unusual after all.
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