OP’s husband grew up with an anti-vegan family from the South. His family gets irritated when they see promotions for plant-based products, and they detest any menu item that caters to vegans or vegetarians. Meanwhile, OP’s daughter suffers from food allergies and intolerances, such as eggs and lactose. Her husband kissed their daughter after consuming an egg sandwich, causing an allergic reaction. As a consequence, new foods are always tested under medical supervision.
Her Daughter Befriends the Kid Next Door
Their new neighbor, who is completely vegan, has a son who doesn’t eat anything that his parents don’t. When the son had a birthday party, OP’s daughter was able to eat the cake, which cheered her up. She also started having playdates with the vegan family’s son, even when they weren’t supposed to.
Next Door Then Said Not to Talk to Them Ever Again
However, when OP saw the neighbor’s dad out, he was hostile toward her and told her never to talk to him or his wife again.
OP’s Husband Was Rude to them
He showed her a rude text from her husband, and OP realized that her husband had started a fight with the vegan family.
He’s Proud They Don’t Hang Out With Hippies
When she confronted her husband about it, he said that he was proud that their daughter wasn’t hanging out with “hippies.”
She’s Not Cooking Meat Until He Apologizes
Remembering the vegan hate, OP decided not to cook meat until her husband apologized to the vegan family, and they agreed to let their kids play together again. Her husband told her to get over it and do her job, but OP decided to cook, just not what he would like.
Is She in the Wrong?
OP is wondering if she is wrong for refusing to cook meat until her husband apologizes to the vegan family and allows their daughter to hang out with the vegan family’s son.
The Online Community Supports Her
There is effectively no support for OP’s husband’s actions in the thread. He has definitely made himself a few new enemies.
“A spouse telling me to ‘do your job’ in reference to a household chore would put me right on strike. I wouldn’t stop cooking meat for the guy, I’d stop cooking for him. He sounds like an objectively horrible person to be so callous toward your daughter’s friendship and so proud of picking a fight and insulting others.”
But Wonder About Her
Of course, the fact that you thought this kind of hatred was just sort of funny until it impacted your child makes me wonder a little about you.”
And How the Husband Treats Her
This comment is not entirely in reference to the husband’s comments made to the neighbors, but how he is treating the OP. He is very demanding of what she does in terms of cooking which is beyond contemptible.
He Is Destroying His Child’s Friendship!
Moreover, he is destroying his young child’s friendship over a dietary choice that is beyond cruel and outright ludicrous. All for the hatred of people it appears the husband rarely even interacts with.
OP Is at Fault
An interesting perspective of many is that OP is in some ways at fault for the situation they are in.
“Not the jerk, but I almost want to call you the problem for staying with someone so nasty. Your husband literally ruined your daughter’s one friendship over something insanely petty, and your only way of dealing with that is not cooking him meat? That sounds like an insane underreaction to me.”
OP Should Have Stayed Well Clear of Him
This commenter may appear harsh, but they are trying to get to the bottom of OP’s rationale. They make a good point stating that OP should have stayed well clear of the husband for showing these somewhat abusive signs like this.
Why Does She Bother Staying With Him
He clearly shows no respect for OP, their daughter, and their neighbors. He is abusive and demanding of OP performing her household chores. Therefore, many wonder why she is bothering to stay with him in the first place.
She’s Underacting to a Very Serious Situation
Beyond that, it appears as if the OP is underacting to what is a very serious situation. Her husband’s actions are severe and detrimental to the whole family. So why is his only consequence to not eat meat for a period of time? She should at least devise a more severe form of punishment to get her partner’s attention.
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