A man shared his dilemma with an online community in which he asked if he was wrong for screaming at his girlfriend.
A Bakery Business
The man’s sister runs a bakery, which he helps out occasionally.
“She’s been struggling lately to keep up with orders because she’s been short-staffed. She does a lot of orders for wedding cakes that require custard or marmalade fillings, and I offered to help her out by making these fillings at home and bringing them to her so she has less work to do.”
The Food Was Contaminated
He explained that the past four times he’d made some fillings, his girlfriend had contaminated the food.
“My girlfriend has literally dipped her fingers into the filling jars and contaminated them because, in her words, she just wanted to try some.’ I’ve tried explaining that she can’t dip her fingers in and contaminate the entire batch because then I have to remake it.”
He Told Her ‘No’
While he explained why she shouldn’t do this, it seemed to fall on deaf ears.
“I said she should use a spoon and take some out if she wants to try so bad, but she just pouts and says that she likes using her fingers because it takes her back to her childhood.”
Running Late
He’d offered to make some chocolate custard quickly because his sister was running a bit behind on a wedding cake order.
“I told my girlfriend beforehand not to eat the custard, and if she really wanted to, please use a spoon.”
She Had Her Fingers In It Again
The man finished the custard and jumped in the shower quickly before taking the food to his sister.
“I get out of the shower, and what do I see? She has her fingers in it again! I lost it because this was the fifth time she blatantly disregarded what I said, and I yelled at her and told her to ‘stop eating’ the food I’m making because it’s not for her, and she’s contaminating it.”
She Got Upset
She changed the narrative of the argument.
“She started crying and got mad at me for ‘fat-shaming’ her, even though I made no comment on her weight and she has no history of weight issues or eating disorders. I know I was harsh, but she kept pushing my limits.”
He Asked If He Was The Bad Guy Here
The man sought advice from an online community and asked if his actions made him wrong. Here’s what he got back:
“Does she also wear a diaper and draw on the walls with crayons because it reminds her of her childhood? Not the jerk.
Disgusting Behavior
It’s safe to say most people agreed that if anyone was wrong here – it was the girlfriend.
“She was using the crying and fat-shaming as an excuse to try and get out of trouble. She was 1000% in the wrong here and even if it wasn’t for a business, it’s still disgusting to put your fingers in other people’s food!”
Dirty
One user said this:
“He shouldn’t even give her the okay to taste any of it with a spoon, either! Anyone who’s heathen enough to stick their fingers in the jar will also likely lick that spoon clean and stick it right back in for another go. Or she’d likely use the same dirty spoon to sample all the flavors.”
Sabotage
Users questioned why she needed to repeatedly do this, despite being asked not to – for legitimate reasons.
“She’s exhausting and sounds like she’s trying to sabotage you helping your sister.”
Power Play Moves With The Sister
Users couldn’t help but feel this was all deliberate acts to try and sabotage the sister.
“Massive control/sabotage move. Time for her to be an ex-gf. Especially since the last time he caught her dipping her fingers in right when he got out of the shower. What a coincidence! She just happened to be dipping her fingers in right at the one time that he would see her. Obviously, she wanted him to see her.”
She Could Have Jeopardized The Bakery Business
Irrespective of whether the girlfriend’s behavior is deliberate or not, she’s putting the bakery customers – and the business – at risk.
One user said, “She may have used gaslighting here as she’s trying to make you think you did something you clearly did not do (fat-shaming). So don’t apologize. In fact, as the way your sister makes a living is what’s on the line here, do the exact opposite and have this reaction EVERY TIME your girlfriend does this.”
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