A woman has asked “am I the a**hole?” for taking creative measures to stop her family from treating her as a free childcare option.
The Predicament.
The woman explains that her entitled family ruin every holiday for her by insisting she watch her nieces and nephews.
“I live in British Columbia and my family often hosts at our home because we live on a lake. However I seem to always get roped into watching the kids. Which means I don’t get to enjoy my life when we have guests.”
Free Babysitter.
The last instance was the final straw.
“My husband will drink beer with his brother and dad and my MIL and SIL will go on winery visits and I end up at the house responsible for my nieces and nephews.”
Extreme Measures.
Having had enough of this, she took preventative action.
“So last weekend I made sure I was high as a kite when they showed up. My husband and his brother had to watch the kids because I was in no condition.”
Typical Entitled Parents.
The in-laws were not impressed.
“Their mom is angry at me because she ‘trusts me to make better choices’. I told her that my free time is valuable and I wasn’t free child care. My husband had already had a few so his brother had to stay sober, poor baby.”
It’s Ruffled A Few Feathers.
Family members think she went too far.
“My husband thinks I should have tried talking to them again for the fiftieth time instead of getting high. I think they now know better than to not ask me if I even WANT to watch the kids.”
She Sought Advice From An Online Community.
Here’s what they had to say: “NTA [not the a**hole]. And your hubby is the biggest AH. He was just as happy with the previous scenario because he still got to drink and socialize while you were the one being held hostage to the expectation of forced babysitting duties. He didn’t even remain sober to help you watch his nieces and nephews. He held the exact same expectation as his family that he could drink and schmooze while you chased the kids. And isn’t he such a great guy to bring a babysitter for the family. He got all the benefits and goodwill of doing the family a favor while you were stuck with the actual work of it. He should have put a stop to it from day 1 (and if he was the one who was stuck with the kids from the beginning he would have).”
Her Family Sucks.
One user shared this: “The SIL who thinks OP [original poster] who isn’t a parent to these kids will ‘make better choices’ than their actual parent is pretty high up there in AH stakes. Definitely NTA. Bravo for your creative solution OP.”
Kudos To Her And Her Planning.
Users agreed that the in-laws deserved this bit of petty comeuppance.
“LOL totally agree, bravo *chef kiss* Oh no, Dad can’t get drunk with the boys because you beat him to it. It’s not fair! waah! stomp stomp. NTA, of course. ‘Trusted you to make better choices’ – you DID make the better choice, hahaha.”
Well-deserved Revenge.
One person pointed out that the real a**holes here were the in-laws.
“It’s a pretty big AH move to exclude OP from the winery visits tbh.”
The Husband Is Just As Bad.
Community members weren’t quick to let her husband off the hook.
“He is probably one of those jerks who KNOWS their partner is unhappy. They just didn’t think it was going to inconvenience them, so they don’t lift a finger to fix it.”
The Root Of The Problem.
Users hope that the woman won’t tolerate any more nonsense:
“While OP’s solution got them out of future babysitting duties, it, unfortunately, didn’t change their inlaws’ (or their husband’s) lack of respect for them, which is really the root of this issue. Best of luck to OP down the road. If you don’t start putting your foot down and meaning it, you’re going to be needing it.”
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