This grandma was curious to know if she was wrong for being bothered with her daughter’s apparel choice for her granddaughter after she was born.
A Family Tradition.
The woman explains that in her culture [unspecified], it is widely encouraged that newborn infants wear specific clothing. “It is customary in my country for clothes to be a certain color to represent something good (health, peace, and protection).”
They Asked Her To Make The Clothing.
Like many grandmas, the woman loves to knit and her children have all asked her to knit maternity ward clothing for their babies. “I don’t do it professionally and I work, so it’s something I do in my spare time and it takes months because I do it with all the love and care. Nor do I force my children to accept it, most ask right after they announce the pregnancy if I can make the clothes.”
A New Pregnancy In The Family.
One of her children announced they were expecting a little bundle of joy. “My oldest daughter, I’ll call Pam, announced that she was pregnant and asked me to make it for her daughter (we found out later).”
She Was Very Proud Of Her Work.
She couldn’t wait to see her new baby granddaughter in the outfit. “She chose the color red and honestly, it was one of the prettiest jobs I’ve ever done and finished within 7 months of her pregnancy. She gave birth about 20 days ago. My granddaughter was born healthy, perfect, and bright.”
An Upsetting Surprise.
On the day of the birth, the woman saw that her daughter had broken the tradition. “I was heartbroken on the way out of the maternity ward when I found out that my granddaughter would not wear the clothes I made, but one that Pam got from her in-laws from a very expensive brand (like Gucci).”
She Confided In Her Son.
The woman felt disheartened and needed someone to talk to. “I didn’t say anything to her, but in a conversation with my son, I just vented that I was heartbroken about it and that I wouldn’t have any problems if she didn’t ask and I didn’t do it in the sense of exposing my daughter or anything, but just after my son insisted on me talking because he realized that I was a little down.”
Soon Enough, Everyone Knew What Happened.
News reached Pam that her mom was upset. “The word spread among my children until it reached Pam in the form of a scolding for someone else. She called me angrily, saying that she couldn’t believe I was jealous of an outfit that her daughter could wear at any time, but that I decided to make this moment about me and not celebrate my granddaughter’s life.”
She Doesn’t Know What To Do.
She feels that her disappointment is justified. “I’m lost, I’m just heartbroken that I’ve been making something so lovingly for months for a specific moment and not been told at any point that she wouldn’t use it. My family is divided, some criticizing me and others on my side.”
She Looked Outside The Family For Advice.
She needed unbiased opinions, so she asked an online community what they thought. One user said this: “NTA. Everyone saying ‘there’s still time to wear the outfit’ is missing the point. The outfit was for a specific event. If you had been asked to make a prom dress and spent hours and hours of your free time making it, only for your daughter to wear a different dress to prom, no one would say, ‘She can still wear it some other time’. Similar situation here.”
She Acted With Dignity.
Users understood her feelings and praised her for her decorum. “OP [original poster] kept silent on everything so the mother didn’t have any extra stress when leaving the hospital. That’s better than what a lot of people would be able to do, myself included.”
She Wasted Her Mom’s Time.
Votes were unanimous that the daughter was wrong here. One person said, “Don’t ask someone to spend hours of their time making something for you, only not to use it. It’s just appalling behavior. Every family and every culture has their own traditions. But if I asked someone to make an outfit for my kid, you bet I’d be putting that outfit on my baby.”
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