We all have things that we wish had or hadn’t done. Words spoken in the heat of the moment that we long to take back. Some regrets are more common than others. Here are a few that we need to let go of.
Judging people
Summing up a person as soon as you meet them is an evolutionary trait. You want to know if they are friend or foe. When making a judgement you are using your prior experiences, biases, and prejudices to deliver the result. Later you may find out that you made a huge mistake and the person wasn’t the monster you thought they were.
Being horrible to others
When we show a lack of care and empathy to those who have come into (and left out) our lives, we look back in hindsight and wish we acted differently. Take that as a lesson and make a positive change in the way you treat people.
Worried about other people’s opinions of you
It’s normal to want to be accepted by others. However, if you are always striving to have people like and approve of you it only leads to stress and anxiety. You will always be trying to fit in with the crowd and miss out on the chance to be your authentic self.
Opportunities Not Taken
That dream job you never applied for. That state you should have gone on but doubted yourself. These things can torment you. But, as they say, there are always “other fish in the sea”. Look at what causes you to turn down opportunities, fix the issue, and then take advantage of the next one that comes your way.
Working Too Hard
“All work and no play” may sum you up. You have focused on your career but now realize you haven’t had much time to enjoy life. Take stock of your work-life balance and make the appropriate adjustments.
Have Money Management Problems
In the past yoh malt have just lived for the day and not paid any thought about the future. Now time has snuck up on you and you look at your current financial situation. You may tend to beat yourself over the head for being so reckless. The good news is that you can always change the situation.
Putting off seeking out mental health assistance
For those with mental health issues, regrets can be magnified which only makes the situation worse. Support is readily available. Don’t look back at your past and start the “If only’s”. Reach out for help and be excited about the future.
I Should Have
Considering the things that you haven’t done can lead to personal resentment and depression. You can’t change the past but you can certainly gain wisdom from it. Ask yourself why it was you didn’t do the things you now wish you had. What were the circumstances around the situation? What can you do differently next time a similar event occurs? Make peace within yourself with the issues and then move forward.
Wish they had been a better relative
Perhaps there were things you regret as a spouse. As a parent, it could be that you made mistakes that you can’t let go of regarding raising your kids. Children may wish they had treated their parents or siblings better. Apologize to those who have been affected and ask them to forgive you.
Didn’t live their dream
You may look at the time you have left before you and think it’s too late to realize your dream. The truth is that it’s never too late. Step out and make it happen.
My job sucks
You had an idea as to what kind of work you wanted to do but decided to settle for second best. It could be that you’re in your dream job but it isn’t as dreamy as you thought. Take stock of what is lacking and then consider an alternative job or career path.
Wanted to have my own life
You may have constantly conformed to other people’s ideas and suggestions about what you should do with your life. Then you realize it’s not your life but one that has been thrust upon you by those around you. Now you feel regret as you think of the wasted time. Yet, you still have a future before that’s unwritten and the way the story unfolds is up to you.
Went after the wrong things
The issue with wrong things is that, at the time, they seem the right things to you. Then you look back in hindsight and see through the illusion. Consider what your motivation was when you pursued those people, possessions, and lives that felt so promising and meaningful back then. Have you changed or is there still a deep longing for those wrong things? If it’s the latter, consider why you have regret now.
You can be free
Regret chains you with feelings of despair, melancholy, and anger. You can’t undo what happened, but you can take lessons from it and move forward. Ask for forgiveness from those you need to but also forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, but it’s possible to let our blunders go and head into a brighter future.
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