Every family has its ups and downs. Imagine a family where a brave kid wants to share a big secret, but instead of getting hugs and support, they find themselves in the middle of misunderstandings and arguments.
Coming Out to the Family
Five months ago, a young person, who was the oldest child in their family, bravely revealed to their family that they were LGBT. This was a big step for them. But instead of support, they faced unexpected comparisons.
A Shocking Comparison
Their dad made a surprising comment. He compared their coming out to his habit of heavy drinking. In their family’s religion, both were viewed as “wrong.”
Noticing Dad’s Issues
As time passed, it was clear that their dad had a drinking problem. It also seemed he didn’t like his oldest child. He would often criticize them for various reasons.
Responsibilities Abound
Being the oldest child comes with a lot of responsibility. Their dad expected them to take care of everyone.
Facing Unfair Criticism
Aside from the expectation of being a responsible child, the dad would also often scold and belittle them. Reasons ranged from being LGBT to being autistic and depressed. Yet, they were just trying to be themselves.
A Pattern of Avoidance
Whenever they tried to discuss the issues, their dad would avoid admitting his mistakes. He did this not only to them but also to their mom.
Protecting the Younger Siblings
Interestingly, their dad never treated the younger brothers this way. It seemed like he reserved his harshest behavior only for the oldest child and their mom.
A Brief Respite
There was a short period when their dad stopped drinking after their mom had persuaded him to. But soon, he returned to his old ways, upset at even the hint that he might be wrong.
Giving Up on Making Amends
With constant arguments between the parents, the eldest child felt defeated. They realized they would always be wrong in their dad’s eyes and that it wasn’t their job to correct their dad’s actions.
Understanding Dad’s Struggles
Despite everything, the young person admitted their dad had his own challenges. He had always struggled with anxiety and depression, and drinking seemed to be his way of coping.
The Downside of Dad’s Coping Mechanism
Drinking might have calmed their dad’s mind, but it had negative effects too. It made him lash out, especially at the eldest child. They felt accused and hurt simply for being who they were.
Standing at a Crossroads
Their dad has since apologized and asked for reconciliation. Apparently, he wants to correct his mistakes. However, the young person doesn’t believe their father’s intentions and refuses to reconnect. They wanted to know if they were right to refuse their father’s apology.
The Sad Truth
Online users sympathized with the young person and offered helpful but rather painful advice.
“Enough of the drama from your family, just go No Contact as it isn’t at all worth it. It is a lost cause at this point, and you have to worry about your mental health first and foremost. NC, and just move on the best you can.”
Another person said, “It’s sad what alcoholism can do to a person, but that doesn’t mean you should let them hurt you.”
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