A woman and her husband organized an elaborate pregnancy announcement for her family, but then she wanted to tell his family via a Facebook post. Now, he’s upset. Even though her husband’s family aren’t good people, she wonders if she was in the wrong.
She and Her Partner Found Out They Were Expecting
In December, the couple found out they were pregnant. They hadn’t told anyone until one weekend when they told her family in a special announcement. Her family was all really excited about the future arrival of their baby.
She and Her Partner Are Close With Her Family
Her husband is very close with her family, who have been very involved in their life together. The couple vacation with her family every year, see them multiple times, and the family regularly checks in on them.
She Doesn’t Feel Close to His Family at All
The couple is not close with his family in the same way at all. Instead, she feels they are estranged. She and her husband see his family just once a year, and it’s always awkward. She’s convinced the only reason they are invited to Thanksgiving is to help pay for the food.
His Family Told Her To Leave Her Husband
Her husband’s family had told her since they got together to leave her husband and ‘escape while she can.’ When they first met, he was severely depressed and didn’t have any goals, but he’s very different now. Years later, the family still holds his depression against him and doesn’t even seem to like him as a person.
She Had Gotten Pregnant Once Before
Years ago, the couple got pregnant but sadly miscarried. None of his family had been excited about the pregnancy, and when they found out about the miscarriage, his family said it was ‘for the best.’
She Didn’t Want To Bother Telling Them This Time
After how they reacted the last time she was pregnant, this time around, she didn’t care if they knew and had no interest in telling them. Why would they be excited this time around when they didn’t care the last time?
She Would Rather They Didn’t Know the Child at All
She felt that they were bad people and hated the way they treated her husband. Because of this, she didn’t really want their child to know them at all. They always talked badly about her husband to everyone they knew, so she felt they would do the same about their child.
Her Husband Brought Up Telling His Family
After announcing the pregnancy to her family, her husband brought up the question of how they would tell his family. The announcement to her family involved a special announcement with lots of planning, so he expected they would do the same for his family.
She Suggested Telling Them via a Facebook Post
She suggested they tell his family via a Facebook post. In response to this, he asked why her family got a special announcement and not his. She replied that they could make a special announcement, but like the first time around, his family wouldn’t care or be excited anyway.
Now He’s Hurt That She’s So Dismissive
Even though she said they could make a special announcement if he wanted, he’s now upset that she was being so dismissive about it. She thinks that it will be a waste of time and effort, but her husband wonders if a special announcement will help his family see he’s not the man that he used to be.
She Turned to the Internet
Feeling strongly that his family aren’t nice people but also feeling bad for hurting her husband, she turned to an online forum for advice. She wanted to know whether she was in the wrong for not wanting to waste time on a special announcement for his family when he only wanted to do it for their undeserved approval.
The Internet Responded
One reader replied, “Slightly, because this isn’t about your in-laws. This is about your husband and the fact he’s proud to be a father and wants to announce that to his family in a special way. Just like how you had your moment and felt special, he wants the same thing. The problem isn’t you not caring. It’s that after he expresses his feelings to you, you look at him and say fine, but it’s still a waste of time. Why would doing something to make your husband happy be a waste of time?”
Another user answered, “I empathize with her and don’t blame her for not wanting to do something special, but it’s not on her to disregard her husband’s relationship with his family. As much as it hurts, sometimes you have to let people do something you disagree with until they realize and accept reality.”
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