Recently a married man, who is 42 years old, had a picture in his office that includes a girl named Trina, whom he was going to marry when he was 21. Now his current wife is angry that he has bikini photos of another woman in his office.
The Road Trip
Trina passed away from bacterial meningitis, which was a shock to him because she was a healthy volleyball player. The picture is a group shot of his university friends and him on a road trip to a houseboat in Lake Havasu.
Close Friends
He and his friends are still close, and one of the guys in the picture was his best man at his wedding. One of the girls in the picture is also friends with his wife. The man’s wife, who is 37 years old, hates the picture because it has Trina in it.
She Hates It
She wants him to take it down and put it in an album or something. However, he does not own a photo album and does not want to take down the picture in his office. The man does not understand why his wife is upset about the picture.
He Was Over It
Trina was gone before he met his wife, and he had dealt with his grief through counseling. He is not hung up on Trina and does not see the harm in having the picture in his office.
A Small Frame
The picture is a framed 5×7 on the wall with dozens of other pictures from his past. The man’s wife is upset because she feels like he is still holding onto his past relationship with Trina.
Disrespectful
She is also upset that the picture shows Trina wearing a bikini bottom and a sports bra. She feels like this is disrespectful to Trina’s memory and wants the picture taken down.
Difficult
He does not see the harm in having the picture in his office, especially since it is not a huge picture that takes up half the wall. However, he understands that it may be difficult for his wife to see the picture every day.
An Explanation
The man and his wife sit down to talk about the picture. He starts by explaining that he understands how difficult it must be for her to see the picture every day, but he also wants her to understand that Trina was an important part of his life.
A Reminder
He tells her that he has dealt with his grief and that the picture is a reminder of the good times they had with their friends. The man’s wife listens to him and understands where he is coming from.
Still Uncomfortable
However, she still feels uncomfortable with the picture. She suggests that they move it to a less prominent place in the office or put it in a photo album. The man agrees to this and decides to put the picture in a photo album.
The Internet Responds
One person wrote, “I do not understand this mentality of being threatened by someone who has passed. If she didn’t know you were thinking of marrying this woman (at that time), she wouldn’t have an issue with it.”
Another said, “This is not okay when you’re so entitled that a memento of the good times from 20 years ago makes you feel like you’re not getting enough attention.”
More Internet Opinions
This commenter said, “It’s very clearly just a memory of your friends and, yes, an ex, but considering how long has passed and the fact that she’s passed, you should have the right to keep it up.”
Another commented, “Your wife is threatened not by your past but by present comparisons: she feels insecure about aging, her body, the mundanity of married life. She can’t compare to golden memory.”
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