When faced with an emergency, it’s only natural to want your partner’s emotional support, even when they can’t be with you in person. That’s the situation a woman I’ll call Susan found herself in with her husband. She tells her story on a recent online discussion board.
A Family Emergency
Susan’s husband planned an out-of-state trip for a college reunion while she stayed home with their one-year-old baby. Right before he left for a party, Susan received a call from parents who live out of state. Susan’s grandmother had a medical emergency, and since Susan is a nurse, they were seeking her advice. She told them to call an ambulance for her grandmother for treatment at a hospital where she had emergency surgery.
Radio Silence
After calling her husband with an update on her grandmother’s condition before his party, Susan’s husband didn’t check in with her. Instead, she received a text of a drunk selfie of her husband and another guy from an unknown number. Susan texted her displeasure and said she was worried about her grandmother. There was still no reply. After an hour, Susan texted the unknown number, asking if her husband’s phone had died, and she received an answer of yes with a crying laugh emoji. After messaging back that her grandmother was still in surgery, she didn’t receive a reply.
Anger Spills Over
Four hours later, after Susan’s grandmother was out of surgery, she texted her husband to let him know how much he had let her down. This became a fight in which he believed he did no wrong because she knew he had been looking forward to the party for months and couldn’t do anything anyway. Susan lost her temper and told him he was irresponsible for getting drunk and allowing his phone to die while she was alone with their baby during a family emergency.
An Apology and Excuses
While Susan’s husband apologized for not checking in, he claimed he made himself available through his friend. She disagreed, said she was overreacting, that he couldn’t do anything since he was out of state and that he shouldn’t have to interrupt his reunion with friends he hadn’t seen in 15 years to cater to her.
Did She Overreact, or Did He Underreact?
Susan said she didn’t expect her husband to hop on the next flight home but to be accessible and available to communicate with her during a scary time. He eventually offered a more sincere apology and wished he’d done more. However, Susan wants to know if she overreacted to his unavailability during her family emergency. Users from the discussion offered their opinions about their reactions.
He Failed His Responsibilities
“They are a family; he is a partner and a father first. The least he should have done is check in as soon as he knew what was happening and apologize for missing communication earlier,” someone comments. “This is the minimum expectation for an adult partner with a small child at home,” they continue.
Important To Be There
Another person on the thread sides with Susan: “When scary things happen, you want to know the person you love is willing to drop everything and be there, even if not physically. That’s why you choose them to be your partner through thick and thin. And he dropped the ball,” they write.
He Was Disrespectful
“A supportive partner is someone who checks in regularly during a stressful and scary situation like this. Also, there was the real chance your family would need to be with your grandmother. I can’t imagine getting hammered and having a great time with old friends when I know my wife is home worried with our one-year-old. To send her a drunk selfie is incredibly disrespectful,” a third-person observes.
He Should Know Better
One contributor to the discussion chastises the husband for his juvenile behavior. “Getting drunk with buddies versus supporting your partner in a family emergency? He’s old enough to know better, and he could have used his friend’s phone to check in on you. Nobody needs to get incoherent drunk at his age.”
Weaponized Stupidity
The husband’s excuses fell flat with this responder, accusing him of weaponized stupidity, insisting, “Anyone that has a child would make sure they could be reached. Excuses include: My phone was dead, it was loud, but I haven’t seen my friends, and we were catching up, etc.”
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