A woman recently went to a popular online community to gain insight and advice from its members regarding her upcoming nuptials and uninviting her mother-in-law.
MIL Has Never Liked the Bride
“My future MIL has never been a fan of me (26F) for the entire duration of my and my fiancé’s (29M) relationship. I’m honestly not sure why she’s always disliked me and been cold to me, but after multiple attempts to build a relationship with her (we’ve been together for four years), nothing has worked.”
She Also Never Cared About Her – Until the Wedding Was Announced
“She couldn’t give two (slang) about me until the wedding planning started a few months ago… My fiancé and I are paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves, while my dad and stepmom are also financially contributing. MIL and FIL have not contributed, but MIL is giving her opinion on things as if she’s footing the bill.”
Her Mother-In-Law Loves Sharing Her Opinions
“You should make the themes this color,” “Make sure you have this dish on the menu, “Don’t do an open bar. You don’t want people being too rowdy,” “Make sure I, my sister, and cousin are sitting front row at the wedding ceremony,” etc.
She and Her Fiancé Are Sick of It
“My fiancé and I are sick of this. Whenever she tries to give an opinion, we politely shut it down and tell her we have it under control, but she never gets the hint!”
She Made The Mistake of Taking Her MIL Wedding Dress Shopping
“A few weeks ago, we went dress shopping (my mom and close friends came, too), and I found my DREAM wedding dress. I have a curvy hourglass figure, and I found a dress that shows off my figure perfectly and makes me feel gorgeous.
The Dress Is Flattering to Her Shape and Style
“The dress is revealing (low cut on the chest and mermaid style), but it’s nothing I’d be ashamed of my family and friends seeing me in.”
Her MIL Hated It
“My MIL, on the other hand, HATED my chosen dress. She made sure to express that to me multiple times. She even said, “This is a wedding, not a club- I don’t like it.” I bought the dress anyway since I’m paying for it after all.”
The Mother-In-Law Switched Her Dress
“Last night, my fiancé and I were cleaning up after dinner, and I received a call from the shop I ordered my dress from. They were calling me concerned because a lady (my MIL) called them pretending to be me and wanted to switch the dress I chose to a more appropriate dress. The sales associate realized that It wasn’t my phone number that called to make the change and called me immediately to confirm before they changed the order.”
Her MIL Finally Fessed Up About Trying to Swap Out Her Dress
“I was LIVID. My fiancé heard the entire conversation and was LIVID as well. He called his mom to confront her, and she fessed up after denying it a few times. I told her if she was so bothered by my dress to consider herself uninvited from the wedding and hung up on her.”
Nonstop Calls in Her Defense and Her Fiancé Won’t Get a Mother-Son Dance Now
“Safe to say she is NOT happy. She’s been calling my husband and me nonstop to defend herself, but I’ve had enough. I feel bad for my fiancé because he won’t get to have his planned dance with her. Did I take it too far – AITA?”
She’s Definitely NTA
“NTA- I would have done the same thing. But you and your fiancé need to be in lockstep on this. So if he is/starts hedging- wait to go through with the wedding until you are both on the same page.
Boundaries Need to Be Set Now, or It Will Be a Nightmare Later
“You need to get these boundaries in place now because MIL will be a nightmare if you have kids you don’t.”
Starting a Marriage With Resentment Is Not Good
“Making this decision without the unilateral support of the fiancé is a recipe for disaster. It’s his mom and his wedding, too. He needs to be the one to make the final call with you, or you will start this marriage off with resentment from him.”
Zero Money Contribution = Zero Opinion
“While I generally agree with your approach, in this case, you don’t appreciate the gravity of the situation. This future MIL thought she had the right to dictate what an adult was wearing to an event they were planning for themselves that she was making absolutely zero financial contribution toward.”
Narcissism At Its Best
“To get what she wanted, she lied by pretending to be someone she wasn’t. She believed in her heart of hearts that she not only had the right to mess with other people but that she had the right to do so, and said other people should deal. That is not a healthy mindset at all, but straight-up narcissism.
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