A motocross enthusiast (we’ll call her Nicki) is met with disapproval from her sister, who loathes the sport. Her broken ankle and shattered knee left her physically injured and mentally and emotionally distressed. Her sister’s callous words didn’t help the situation, even on her hospital bed.
Meet Nicki and Her Sister
Despite being an amateur, Nicki, a 27-year-old motocross enthusiast, passionately invests her time and money in the sport. Her older sister, aged 31, disdains motocross and consistently warns Nicki about its dangers, fearing she will get hurt.
The Accident
Unfortunately, Nicki had a severe accident while attempting a jump, resulting in a broken ankle and a shattered knee. Her physical recovery remains uncertain, and she struggles with emotional distress, worried about the possibility of never being able to ride again.
Her Sister’s Visit
During her sister’s visit to the hospital, Nicki was taken aback by her immediate comment: “I told you this would happen.” What struck her the most was the absence of empathy or compassion in her sister’s words, as if she relished being proven right. Nicki felt hurt and confused by the lack of support from her sister. And those were the only words her sister uttered until this happened.
The Retort
Notably, her sister has been smoking cigarettes for 14 years, and while Nicki rarely criticizes her habit, she expresses concerns when directly asked or during discussions about its supposed benefits. Reacting to her sister’s hurtful remark at the hospital, Nicki retorts with, “Nice response, I will remember it for when you get lung cancer.”
The Reaction
This further exacerbates the situation, causing her sister to become incredibly upset, hurling insults at Nicki before leaving. Since then, Nicki has not spoken to her sister.
The Messages
But their parents have sent angry texts suggesting Nicki crossed a line. Nicki acknowledges the inappropriateness of her comment, clarifying that she would never wish harm upon her sister. She intended it as an example to illustrate the insensitivity of her sister’s initial remark.
Possible Reconciliation
Nicki questions in an online forum if she is the one in the wrong. She decides to reach out to her sister, seeking an opportunity to have a conversation and longing for her support during this difficult time.
Which is Worse?
The argument in the forum about who is wrong or right triggers a lot of comments. Someone says, “Your comment wasn’t great, but I’m still going to say you didn’t do anything wrong.” The user explains that pulling an “I told you so” on someone with an ACTUAL injury while they are lying in the hospital fresh off the trauma is worse than a remark in return about HYPOTHETICAL illness. “I can’t stand people who dish it out but go crying to anyone who will listen when they get a fraction back in return,” they conclude.
Fair But Unhelpful
Another said that while it is fair game to reply, it does not improve anything. They advise that if Nicki is trying to improve her relationship with her sister, she should consider better forms of communication, such as non-violent communication.
She’s Justified
And Nicki didn’t get physically hurt by their sister’s words? Someone wanted to know. They admit that what the sister said was messed up, but so was Nicki’s reply. While both sisters acted poorly, they concluded that Nicki was slightly more justified in their bad behavior. In defense of Nicki, one individual replies that people aren’t at their best in a hospital bed when recovering from major injuries. They conclude that Nicki’s apathetic sister didn’t have that excuse.
An Equal Response
Nicki’s words didn’t match her sister’s. One user attempts to differentiate. Instead of offering comfort during a hospital visit, her sister chose to say, “I told you so,” which is just cruel. Nicki’s response was cleverly conditional, asking the person how they would feel in a similar situation. The intention was to prompt her sister to imagine a hypothetical scenario where she would be on the receiving end of an “I told you so” and reflect on her feelings. Nicki’s reaction was a result of her severe injury.
People Need a Taste of Their Medicine
What kind of response does the sister anticipate after visiting her injured sibling solely to deliver an “I told you so” before promptly departing? One puzzled user wondered aloud. They submit that sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine to realize their behavior. Just maybe a gentle reminder of the impact of her words would be more effective in promoting self-awareness. Some folks would have retorted far more scathingly than simply returning the remark.
There’s Just One Bad Person Here
According to one person, it’s unfair to hold the person in the hospital in terrible pain with a potentially life-altering injury to a higher standard than the person who just stopped by to visit. The only wrong one is the sister, whose first response was ‘told you so.’ The sister’s response only explained how she felt, which doesn’t pass as bad and violent communication.
Birds of a Feather
Perhaps the two sisters are more alike than we realize. Someone argues: While telling her “I told you so” was a horrible move, Nicki was participating in a sport that can result in serious harm. The sister smokes, which can cause cancer. Both are on the same wavelength and choose to put themselves in danger.”
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