The Boss Didn’t Help Out
When OP asked her where she went, the boss said she was working elsewhere because it would be unprofessional to work at the banquet table where OP was seated. The boss did not come to dinner with the team on either of the two nights they held the conference.The Next Event Will Run Without OP
But she did come to a party with attendees where she announced that they were doing the conference again next year, but OP would not be involved.The Boss Took Back Control
Several days later, when OP returned to the office, the boss told her she was “taking back operation control” of the event and planned to use a lot of OP’s staff to do most of the work. OP’s staff was already at capacity and couldn’t do this work on top of their regular duties.Her Boss Kicked Her Out of the Office
OP offered to continue on as usual until the boss found a person to hire for it, but the boss lost her cool, yelled at OP, and accused her of not asking for help and wanting it all. OP delegated all the tasks and had help, but the boss kicked her out of her office.The Boss Hasn’t Spoken to Her Since
The boss hadn’t spoken to OP since then, except for an email where she said that since the event meant so much to OP, she could have it. OP responded that she was confused, and the boss replied that since OP said she wanted it, she was honoring her wishes.It Was a Drama Because She Wasn’t the Center of Attention
OP feels like the whole thing was drama because the boss wasn’t the center of attention. OP doesn’t think she did anything wrong but wonders if she’s missing something and if she’s the bad guy in this situation.The Community Comments
Essentially all of the online users are in agreement that OP’s boss’ reactions were strange and unjustified: “She was invited to planning meetings and only showed up for a few of them. If she wanted things to be done a certain way, it was her responsibility to communicate that to you. It sounds like you were fully capable of handling the event, and it was successful.It Sounds Like She’s Had Her Nose Pushed Out of Place
“Not sure what her problem is. Based on what you’ve written, it sounds like her nose is bent out of joint, but she didn’t give you any kind of feedback whatsoever that would indicate why she’d be at all upset.”She Didn’t Contribute in Any Way Even When Invited To
This commenter suggests that OP’s boss did not convey any idea that she wanted to be part of the planning process. She was invited to make suggestions and be part of the planning but ended up missing most of the event and not contributing in any way.OP Appears Competent
They highlight that OP appears to be very competent at what they do. They clearly had it all under control and are, in fact, in charge of a team of employees. They are clearly an effective employee who knows how to get the job done.It’s Very Strange
So, it’s strange that the boss is taking such offense to OP’s planning and organization. There was no additional feedback regarding OP’s mistake, just a flat response saying that she is no longer organizing the event.Are There More Serious Issues
It seems clear to many of the readers that maybe there are some more severe issues. “Who really knows what was going on in her head? Maybe she expected to be kept more in the loop as to how things were progressing, hard to really know. Maybe it’s the start of dementia? Or has she always been the type of person that goes off like that? From what you’ve written, NTA.”People Were Scratching Their Heads
Based on the information provided in the post, it suggests that the boss is a little lost. Perhaps they did expect more ongoing communication with OP. However, this was never voiced to the OP, nor were any other issues about the event. Not communicating their concerns inevitably left OP and readers scratching their heads about what the crux of the matter is.OP Must Decipher What’s Going On
There is a suggestion that the boss might be suffering from a tragic degenerative disease or, more likely, a challenging personality. In either case, it appears as if the burden is on the OP to try and decipher the best way to deal with their boss and hope it doesn’t get any worse.