Disappointed at her son’s broken marriage and troubled at his drastic proposal to a new girlfriend, the mother struggles to keep up with his fast-paced lifestyle and harbors a great empathy for his ex-wife, the mother of her grandchildren.
A Son’s Hasty Marriage
After high school, her son moved three states away for college and, at just 19, made the impulsive decision to marry a girl he met. To his family, it was pretty sudden, especially so soon after leaving school.
The Immaturity Factor
Deep down, his mom believed he was too immature for such a commitment and tried to convince him to wait. She told him to simply date for a while and just enjoy each other’s company. Why the major rush?
Rushed Family
They both dropped out and moved back to his hometown. At 20, they had their first child, a beautiful little girl. 16 months later, they had their second child, a little boy.
Recognizing Signs of Unhappiness
She and her husband noticed that their daughter-in-law wasn’t happy, and they initially attributed it to postpartum depression (PPD). It had hit her shortly after the birth of her first child, and she’d never been quite the same.
Deteriorating Relationship
Their relationship continued to unravel, and just after the birth of their second child, her son and his wife eventually separated. It was a very sad time, but she had been concerned that this would happen due to such a young commitment.
Providing a Supportive Haven
During her daughter-in-law’s visits with their two children, she began confiding in her and her husband. She empathized with her and tried to help her navigate her difficult situation. It was tough being in the middle, however.
Attempted Interventions
She repeatedly attempted to talk to her son about the problems in his marriage and encouraged him to take responsibility for his actions. He insisted that he was blameless, and his ex carried the majority of the blame.
A New Relationship and Marriage
Despite their ongoing divorce proceedings, her son announced his engagement to a new girlfriend on Facebook mere days after her daughter-in-law filed for divorce. She felt embarrassed at his roller-coaster decisions and his inability to try and ground himself.
Supporting his Ex
Under the circumstances, she and her husband provided financial assistance for their daughter-in-law and grandchildren and helped secure an apartment for her. She had been forced to be a stay-at-home mother during her pregnancies, so finances were tight.
An Awkward Situation
Although she wanted her son to be happy, she felt torn between supporting his ex-wife and getting to know his new partner. It seemed that he had walked away without even demonstrating any responsibility for his choices.
Moving Too Quickly
Her biggest concern was that he was moving too quickly. She had been worried the first time and tried to advise him, but she didn’t feel she could stand by and support yet another marriage, especially without giving his old relationship time to settle.
Refusing to Attend the Wedding
Upon receiving a wedding invitation, she made a difficult decision. She decided not to attend and did not provide her blessing, a decision that she made clear to my son. She could have lied, but it wouldn’t be fair to lie her way through his ceremony.
Grandchildren at the Wedding
While she chose not to attend, her husband was strongly against her wishes. He chose to take their grandchildren to the wedding to save face. She understood his reasoning and advised that it was his choice; she just wasn’t able to go through with it.
A Night with the Ex-Wife
On the night of the wedding, she decided to spend time with her son’s ex-wife, who was in need of support. It was a particularly hard time for her, knowing that her ex-husband had moved on so quickly and was celebrating his wedding.
A Surprising Reaction
Her son’s ex-wife expressed her surprise that she hadn’t attended the wedding, leading her to provide her with emotional support and reassurance. She advised her how she felt and that she couldn’t be supportive of something that she strongly advised against.
Rejection and Anger
Upon learning of her decision, her son called her a horrible mother for not attending his wedding. He later discovered she had spent the evening with his ex-wife, labeling it as a serious betrayal.
The Ultimatum
In a final confrontation, her son demanded that she must earn back her place in his life on his terms only. She had no doubt that this would involve disassociating from his ex-wife and getting to know his new wife.
Setting Priorities
She remains resolute in her belief that she did what was right, even if it has led to a strained relationship with her son. Her husband emphasized the importance of prioritizing their grandchildren, whom they consider their responsibility.
A Strained Relationship
As for her son’s demands, she agreed to get to know his new wife but refused to break contact with his ex-wife, the mother of her grandchildren. She felt it her responsibility as her son had abandoned her. As she tries to rebuild her relationship with her son, to this day, she wonders if she made the right choice.
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