After a difficult conversation with her boyfriend’s mom, a multicultural woman is left wondering if she was overly sensitive or if she was being patronized.
An Unsettling Encounter
A few weeks ago, she had a rather unsettling encounter with her boyfriend’s mother, and it all started with a simple Facebook post. She’s left wondering which one of them is in the wrong!
A Multicultural Background
To provide some context, she is a 24-year-old woman with a multi-cultural background. Her father is Dutch, and her mother is Singaporean (Chinese). They moved to the United States when she was just five years old, so her formative years were spent growing up in this diverse country.
Embracing Nuances
She adapted well to life in the US, but, as expected, there were nuances from her culture that didn’t always translate, and vice versa. Things that a lot of Americans took for granted, for example, might be things she’d never experienced within her own culture. It was all a learning curve.
Good Relationship
She had been dating her American boyfriend for several months. They shared a similar sense of humor and got on well. Things seemed to be ticking along nicely with her life.
An Unpleasant Discovery
It all began when she stumbled upon the fact that her boyfriend’s mom had been indulging in a little Facebook stalking. She’d unearthed a particular photo of her that triggered her curiosity.
An Online Stalker
She could only assume that she’d been going through all of her uploaded pictures in order to find it. She’d posted the particular picture years ago, so she’d clearly been checking out her son’s girlfriend. It was cool; most moms would probably do the same thing!
The Notorious Facebook Photo
In this Facebook photo, she was at a black-tie event, arm in arm with her dad. Given her distinctive Asian features, it was understandable why someone might not immediately associate her with her dad, who doesn’t share those features.
The Awkward Question
Their next encounter was where things took an uncomfortable turn. Mid-conversation, her boyfriend’s mom casually dropped the bombshell: “Where’s your sugar daddy?”
An Unexpected Accusation
She was taken aback. She replied, “Sugar daddy? I don’t have one.” At this point, she had no idea where this conversation was heading, but it was highly inappropriate regardless!
A Shocking Revelation
She then proceeded to pull out her phone, revealing the incriminating Facebook photo. Her boyfriend’s mom asked, “Is this your sugar daddy?” She chuckled, explaining that the man in the picture was her father.
An Unusual Inquiry
As if the bizarre scenario couldn’t get any stranger, she followed up with, “So, were you adopted?” It was hard to believe that these were the questions she was being asked. Talk about bluntness!
A Puzzling Persistence
Even more bewildering was her persistence. She brought the topic up again, saying, “I hope your dad did a DNA test when you were born.” At this point, she was wondering what on earth was going on in her head.
A Clueless Upbringing
It’s important to mention that she’d had a rather sheltered upbringing. She had never encountered anyone quite like her, which made this entire experience even more perplexing.
Bold Question
She was also unfamiliar with such bluntness. However, she wasn’t sure if that was cultural or just her particular set of experiences, but to flat-out ask if someone was adopted seemed a bold move. What if there were deep-rooted psychological issues? What if she had been, and it was a major pain point?
Standing Up for Her Family
Eventually, she couldn’t just laugh it off anymore. She felt compelled to express her discomfort. She told her directly that she did not appreciate her insinuations, suggesting her mother cheated on her father or left their family.
Shrugged Off
There was no apology after her comment. Her boyfriend’s mom simply rolled her eyes and walked off. Her boyfriend shook his head unfavorably. She decided it was probably time to leave for the day.
An Attempt to Lighten the Mood
That evening, she received messages from her boyfriend and his mother. Her boyfriend messaged her, saying, “You took a joke too seriously,” and his mother tried to explain, “She was just making fun of the fact you don’t really look that much like him.”
Mixed Emotions
Okay, she could see why it looked sensitive. She wasn’t a complete flake! She herself had laughed originally, but his mother just wouldn’t let it go. It almost seemed – aggressive! Who knows, maybe she was being sensitive!
Deeper Meaning
She decided to let it go and put it down to crossed wires/miscommunication. However, she’d keep an eye on her boyfriend’s mom in the future and see if it reared its ugly head again. If not, all good! But she just couldn’t shake that feeling that there was more to it…
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