Sarah faced backlash after kicking out a bridesmaid who wore a black dress instead of the forest green one that had been chosen, leading her to question if she was in the wrong.
She Planned the Wedding
It was a crisp December day when Sarah’s winter-themed wedding took place, and she had chosen the color theme of forest green and gold for her special day, with her bridesmaids donning matching forest green dresses and gold accessories. However, one of her bridesmaids, Kat, had expressed her dislike for the color choice and suggested that Sarah choose a more “girly” color like pink or blue. Despite this, Sarah stuck to her original plan and paid for all of the dresses herself.
The Bridesmaid Wore A Different Outfit
On the day of the wedding, Sarah was getting ready with her bridesmaids when Kat arrived 30 minutes late carrying a bag with a dress inside. When asked about it, Kat said it was in case she got uncomfortable and wanted to change after the pictures. But when the bridesmaids came down the stairs, Sarah noticed that Kat was wearing a black dress instead of the forest green one that had been chosen.
She Confronted Her
Sarah confronted Kat about the dress, and Kat replied that she hated the bridesmaid dress because it made her look “gross” and that she was wearing black instead. Sarah told her to change, but Kat refused and began walking away. Sarah warned her that she would call security and have her escorted out if she didn’t change, but Kat continued to walk away and started yelling at Sarah to “get lost.”
She Had Her Removed
Feeling that she had no other choice, Sarah called security, and Kat was escorted out of the wedding. Despite the incident, the wedding went on and was a success. Since then, Kat has been blowing up Sarah’s phone with nasty texts, demanding that she be refunded for the black dress that she didn’t get to wear. Sarah had to block her number to stop the harassment, and some of her other bridesmaids have been giving her a hard time about kicking Kat out and suggesting that she should refund her money.
She Felt Guilty
Sarah felt conflicted about the situation and wondered if she had been a jerk for kicking Kat out. She turned to her friends for advice, and they all had different opinions. “I think you were in the right,” said one friend. “You had a color theme for a reason, and Kat should have respected that.” Another friend disagreed, saying, “I think it was a bit harsh to kick her out. Maybe you could have let her wear the black dress and just asked her not to be in the official photos?”
Straight to the Internet
Sarah wasn’t sure what to do, but ultimately she stood by her decision. “I paid for the dresses, and I had a specific color theme for a reason,” she said. “I don’t think it’s fair for someone to ignore that and wear something completely different just because they don’t like the color. And the fact that she was causing a scene and yelling at me in front of my other guests was just unacceptable.” With this in mind, Sarah decided it best to get opinions from others on the situation so asked the question on a popular internet forum.
The Internet Responds
One person to respond said, “She embarrassed herself. She agreed to wear the dress you picked out, and then deceitfully planned to change at the last moment in the hope that you’d just let her get away with it. She knew that you would tell her no.
Think of being in a wedding as like playing a part in a play, or a ballet, or something. You get cast as ‘bridesmaid,’ so you wear the costume that the artistic director has picked out for bridesmaids to wear. If you don’t want to wear the costume, don’t be in the show. But you can’t just show up on opening night and say ‘I didn’t like your costume choices, so I’m going to wear the same costume as this other character instead.'”
Another Response
Another person comments, “Agreed. It’s pretty brave to pull the stunt she pulled and then want you to pay for the dress. Find new friends. It doesn’t sound like the other bridesmaids are worth your time either.”
A Third Response
A final person writes, “Especially since you paid for all of the green bridesmaids’ dresses. Frankly, you should demand that Kat pay you back for the green dress! But I think your plan of just blocking her and her drama is the best choice. Good riddance to insecure drama queen Kat, and I’d re-evaluate any other friend who tells you you’re wrong for expecting basic respect and honesty from a friend on your wedding day. Good on you for not letting someone stomp on your boundaries.”
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