Sophie, a vegan, found herself in an uncomfortable situation with her non-vegan friends when they started discussing meat, and she struggled with how to handle the situation.
She is Vegan
Sophie had been a vegan for a long time, and all her friends knew about it. She had strong opinions on animal rights and the environment, but she tried not to bring it up too often to avoid being annoying. However, one day, while hanging out with some friends, the conversation turned to meat, and Sophie started feeling uncomfortable.
She Went Quiet
“They were discussing their favorite types of meat and all that stuff, which is fine, but not a conversation I want to be part of,” Sophie explained. “Obviously, I was uncomfortable and zoned out a little. I understand suddenly going quiet and looking uninterested is not the nicest way to act, but I’m not sure what else I could have done.”
She Was Uncomfortable
Sophie’s friends noticed that she wasn’t participating in the conversation and started asking her questions about her favorite type of meat before she went vegan. “I was very uncomfortable at this point, but I still did not want to be rude, so I just shrugged and nodded and tried to focus on something else,” Sophie said.
Her Friends Didn’t Like it
However, her friends didn’t take kindly to her lack of enthusiasm. “Eventually, they get mad. Like Mad mad. Saying I’m so annoying for acting superior when they talk about these things or being rude and not answering their questions, accusing me of feeling x way,” Sophie explained. “I had no idea what to do, and I just explained that I was uncomfortable talking about this, and they should probably be aware of that.”
She Felt Hurt
Sophie felt hurt and confused by her friends’ reaction. She had never tried to force her beliefs on anyone, and she didn’t understand why they were so angry with her. “I don’t think I said anything mean to them in the entire conversation; I just wasn’t participating — they can talk about whatever they want, but I didn’t know why they wanted to involve me in it when they know how I feel about it,” she said.
She was Worried
Sophie was worried that she had done something wrong and that she was being unreasonable. “I know being quiet is rude, and I hadn’t explicitly set this boundary before because I am both bad at setting boundaries and afraid of sounding crazy, so maybe it was my bad,” she said. “I just thought it’d be obvious, considering I don’t really hide my opinions even if I don’t bring them up daily.”
Easily Influenced
Sophie’s friends were young, and she suspected that they were easily influenced by online content. “My main assumption is that there was a pre-existing conflict between them and my choice to be vegan for whatever reason,” Sophie said. “I don’t discuss it with them at all, so I assume it is some kind of prejudice from watching annoying vegan content, etc. Some people can get really defensive about entire groups of people, and I understand why.”
She Needed to Clear the Air
Despite feeling anxious and guilty about the situation, Sophie knew that she needed to talk to her friends and clear the air. “I will try to talk to them about it and apologize. Hopefully, they will understand my point of view as well if I explain myself,” she said. Sophie realized that she needed to be more assertive about her boundaries and communicate them clearly to her friends. “When I ignored the conversation, I thought I was being polite, but it was probably passive-aggressive to them, unfortunately,” she said. “I will keep it in mind the next time something like this happens.”
Straight to the Internet
Sophie’s experience highlights the importance of communication and setting boundaries in maintaining healthy relationships. It’s important to respect each other’s beliefs and opinions, even if they differ from our own. When we feel uncomfortable or need to set boundaries, it’s important to communicate them clearly and assertively to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings. With all this in mind, Sophie still had an underlying feeling that she hadn’t handled the situation correctly or her friends should have acted differently, so she decided to head to the internet and seek other opinions through a popular forum page.
The Internet Responds
One person writes, “Being quiet is not rude. I’m an introvert and often stop talking for a while in a group setting because it can be exhausting. You can be quiet for any reason you want, and you’re not required to engage in every conversation topic that your friends bring up. The vegan thing is irrelevant, in my opinion.”
Another Response
Another person said, “Do you have a mean resting face or something? That’s the only solution I can think of as to why they would find you not participating to be ‘acting superior.'”
A Final Reply
A third person comments, “People are rude to vegans because everyone knows it’s kind of messed up to eat meat. (like you wouldn’t eat a dog, but you would eat a cow). Most people don’t have the chutzpah to slaughter an animal themselves.”
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