The OP’s girlfriend is job hunting in another state. In her first interview with a top company, she grilled the company on its engineering practices and withdrew her application. She did the same in the following few interviews and decided against four of the six companies.
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The Background
The speaker thinks she’s being too picky and damaging her reputation. The girlfriend argues that she’s not making any enemies and is being professional. During one of the interviews, she withdrew her application after learning that the company put their employees in dangerous situations.
The speaker thinks she’s delaying getting a new job and argues with her. Still, the girlfriend insists that anyone at her level “interviews” companies just as much as companies interview them. They had a big fight about it, and the girlfriend got mad at the OP for telling her what to do about her career.
The OP and his girlfriend have differing views on job interview approaches. The OP feels that the girlfriend’s approach is too picky and damages her reputation. In contrast, the girlfriend sees it as ensuring that the job and company fit her well.
The disagreement reached a point where they had a heated argument, and the girlfriend felt that the speaker was trying to tell her about her career. In situations like this, it may be helpful for both parties to have a calm and open discussion about their concerns and perspectives and try to find a common understanding.
Both parties have different perspectives on the job interview process, and that’s okay. However, it’s essential to have open and respectful communication and avoid being dismissive or critical of each other’s opinions.
The View
Perhaps it’s not the partner’s place to comment on how their partner handles their career, especially in a field they do not know much about. One Redditor comments, “YTA. Stop mansplaining how to interview for a job you do not do, and in a field you do not know. It isn’t an issue until it becomes an issue. Yes, I am assuming OP’s sex.”
Both parties must consider their goals and priorities for the job hunt and their relationship and find a way to compromise and support each other.
The girlfriend has the right to be selective and choose the best job, and it’s up to her to determine the best process. “The girlfriend is doing what needs to be done to further prevent them wasting time moving forward if the job isn’t a good fit.” And “Every top-level job I’ve ever gotten was a result of me interviewing my prospective employer, not the other way around.”
Suppose the speaker is concerned about the girlfriend’s reputation. In that case, they can have a constructive and non-judgmental conversation about how she can present herself in a positive light in future interviews.
Source: Reddit
