A young man recently turned to fans of Am I The A**hole to look for validation for asking his Girlfriend and her sister to cover up when his parents visited.
He Asked Them To Cover Up
Explaining how the incident came about, the original poster (OP) told readers how he recently took up yoga after his Girlfriend thought it would help with his soccer injuries. She also recommended that her personal trainer sister could lead the sessions at their home.
The OP explained that during one session, his parents came over to collect a fridge he was gifting them, and when they were due to call, a yoga session was in place. Upon recognizing that both women were wearing sports bras, he asked them to cover up as he was with his shirt.
Taking offense to this request, his Girlfriend’s sister ended the session, left, and said she would not be back as she felt offended by his comments. His Girlfriend went on to explain that he was out of order asking them to cover up, insinuating that he was trying to “police” them and that he was a d***.
As we expected, readers of AITA were very quick to agree with the OP’s Girlfriend that he was, in fact, a d***. Some people did not understand his logic, saying, “Sports bras are basically tops at this point. They are sometimes the same as wearing a crop top”. Many others agreed, pointing out that he would not ask the women to cover up if they wore a bikini at a swimming pool or the beach.
Some people should have focused on what the women were wearing but were very bothered about what the OP’s behavior showed. They could not understand why he did not think about how the women felt.
One person said, “I’m a female in my 30s and can also read that he OFFENDED his friend and his girlfriend and didn’t apologize to them, nor create an open discussion about understanding why they were mad.”. We know that women should be able to wear what they want and when they want, especially in their homes, which makes this post very infuriating.
Despite the OP being called out for his unreasonable request, he did gain some empathy when one reader said, “Don’t get me wrong, I don’t agree with OP, but people on here don’t stop to think about cultural nuances that are sometimes hard to break from.” Another commentator echoed this opinion: “OP clearly comes from a ‘cover up’ family culture. Even though I may not agree with it, nowhere in here does it seem like he tried forcing them to cover up.”.
Another person defended him even further by saying, “Seriously, same. 26F here with big breasts, and I would’ve put a shirt on, no questions asked. And as someone else said, a sports bra is not a shirt. It’s a bra.”
The OP was scratching his head at the incident, not fully understanding why the women took so much offense. One person had this advice for him, which sums up the whole experience. They said, “His choices are his. His GF and her sister didn’t come over for a family reunion. Instead, they came over for yoga. He should have either managed his parent’s visit better or told them what to expect when they came in the garage.”