A heartbroken wife recently turned to Reddit for relationship advice as she was worried about her husband’s reaction to her parent’s death. The woman told of the recent death of both her parents after a tragic car accident, telling readers that both she and her brother have been very emotional after the traumatic losses.
She explained that her brother is taking care of the finances as he works in the industry, and she is very grateful for this. However, it became clear in her post that she was unaware of her parents’ financial relations with her brother after he bought their 1.5 million houses for them at the beginning of the pandemic.
She believes her parents only paid utility bills, so she thinks the house now belongs to her brother. On the other hand, her husband believes his wife is entitled to half of the house as it was a gift from her brother.
This issue is brought up several times weekly, making the original poster (OP) very distressed. The OP went on to ponder about her financial situation, admitting to some struggles and that she believes this is why her husband insists on claiming a windfall from her parents passing away.
It appears that her husband is jealous of her brother’s financial position, which has led him to believe that he is trying to “rip his wife off.” Unable to get him to see things differently, she turned to Reddit, and readers quickly gave their opinions.
Straight off, the husband did not come out well, with one person going straight in to say, “J*sus, he just couldn’t wait to stick his hands in your dead parents’ pockets, could he? He couldn’t even give you time and space to grieve because he was eager to profit from their deaths. What a disgusting human being.”
This sentiment was felt by many others, with one commentator being blunt in saying, “He’s showing his true colors while you’re actively grieving your parents who you lost in a traumatic and unexpected way. A good husband would try to make this time as stress-free as possible for you; it seems like he’s determined to do the opposite”.
So many people who posted pointed out that the house was not her husband’s to claim, saying, “The house isn’t her parents. The house is her brother’s. He paid for it, and his name will be on the house. He’s in finance. This is how you would do something like buy your parents a house.”
However, another said, “If your brother paid for their house, but it was in their names, yes, you’d be entitled to half of the house after it sold.” This is an essential fact that needs to be established.
Still, ultimately it should be led by the original poster. As many people giving advice make clear, she is grieving, and it is not the time to contest finances when things are raw.
We certainly hope that the OP’s husband’s managers offer her the support she needs, but as one comment stated, “Your husband is not one of those people. What he is doing is quite toxic, and I think you need some space from him so you can focus on healthy grieving.”
It certainly seems that much talking is needed, and we hope the OP finds comfort after these difficult times.