Tom, a father to a son who recently went through a breakup with his long-distance girlfriend of two years, tells his son that he agrees with the girlfriend’s decision to break up due to his son’s lack of effort in the relationship, causing tension within the family, but ultimately leading to his son learning a valuable lesson about relationships.
His Son Had a Break-up
Meet Tom, a father to a son who recently went through a break-up with his long-distance girlfriend of two years. The girlfriend was a great girl, and Tom and his wife welcomed her with open arms. She was constantly flying to their country to visit their son, but he never made an effort to go visit her.
He Tried Talking
Tom tried talking to his son several times and told him that he should start looking into flying over to see her instead of expecting her to do all the traveling. However, his son refused, and Tom’s wife was also afraid of him flying. Tom spoke to both of them and said that the girl was great for him, and she was willing to move to their country, but he needed to fly over to her country too, which was fair enough.
His Son Refused
His son refused, and he became lazier and lazier, telling his girlfriend and his parents that he was perfectly fine never traveling anywhere, including holidays. Last week, his son told them that his girlfriend had dumped him. Tom went on her Facebook page and saw that she was with a new guy already. Tom and his wife had no doubt that she was seeing him while still in a relationship with their son.
He Didn’t Treat Her Right
Tom confessed to both his wife and son that he agreed with his girlfriend’s decision and that he should have expected it. He told his son that he did not treat her properly and that he hoped he would learn lessons for the next one because he needed to make more of an effort. Tom said that his son deserved it for his lack of effort in the relationship and for essentially just allowing this girl to spend all her money and time coming to their country all the time.
They Didn’t Agree
His wife and son were very upset with Tom for saying this. They thought he was being horrible, and his wife accused him of not being supportive of their son during a difficult time. Tom knew that he had upset them, but he also knew that he had to be honest with his son. He felt like his son needed to hear the truth, even if it was hard to swallow.
He Started to Believe His Father
Over time, Tom’s son started to realize that his father was right. He knew that he had not treated his girlfriend properly, and he regretted not making more of an effort. He also knew that he needed to learn from his mistakes and be a better partner in the future. Tom’s wife also started to come around. She knew that Tom was just trying to be honest with their son, and she appreciated his willingness to speak his mind, even if it was difficult. She knew that they all wanted what was best for their son and that sometimes the truth can hurt.
Lessons Were Learned
In the end, Tom’s son learned a valuable lesson about relationships and the importance of putting in effort. He knew that he had made mistakes in his previous relationship, but he was willing to learn from them and be a better partner in the future. Tom’s wife learned that sometimes tough love is necessary, even if it’s hard to hear. She knew that Tom was just trying to help their son, and she appreciated his honesty and support.
Straight to the Internet
Tom learned that it’s important to be honest with his children, even if it means upsetting them. He knew that his son needed to hear the truth, and he was glad that he could be there for him during a difficult time. For complete closure, Tom felt he would ask the advice of people on a popular internet forum to see if they agreed with his decision-making process.
The Internet Responds
One person writes, “Really? Do parents pressure their 15-year-old kid to fly alone to a different country to visit their gf’s? That seems absurdly young for something like that.”
A Further Comment
Another person said, “I applaud you for calling out your son. He needs to grow up if he ever wants a real relationship with someone because relationships take effort. I really hate when people side with their families all the time as if their family members can do no wrong because ‘blood is thicker than water’ or whatever. Real love for someone means that sometimes you need to call them out on their rubbish so they can become better people in the long run, and I think that’s what you’ve done with your son. Bubble wrapping and coddling him does nothing for his personal growth.”
A Final Comment
A final person simply writes, “Why is he in a long-distance relationship if he doesn’t ever want to travel?”
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