OP (32M) and his girlfriend (28 F) have been cohabiting for four years. Recently, his girlfriend started setting aside OP’s undergarments and vests from the laundry pile and not cleaning them with the rest of the clothes. She argues that OP’s undergarments spoil her clothes and wants him to do them separately. When OP recommended they do all their undergarments in a different load, his girlfriend declined, saying that hers are cleaner.
It’s Caused Tension
This has caused tension between them, and his girlfriend has made nasty comments about his hygiene, saying he should keep himself cleaner in his privates and learn how to wash his hands.
He’s Getting Annoyed
OP is getting annoyed at being treated like he’s disgusting, and he feels that he’s not. He lived with his mom before his girlfriend, and she never said his boxers were dirty.
I’m Gonna Stop Grocery Shopping
OP is so frustrated that he’s threatened to stop buying the groceries his girlfriend tells him to bring home. This has become a problem in their relationship, and OP wants to find a way to resolve it.
Readers are Unsympathic
There are many unsympathetic commenters who may have some good points.
Streaks in His Underwear!
It sounds like the OP is just hurt at having his hygiene called out as an issue in the relationship:
“I lived with my mom before and she did my laundry.”
“I’m hairy there and have streaks in my underwear.”
They Can’t Believe the Meme
“YTA. I literally cannot believe I’ve found a real live ‘men don’t wash but want their girlfriend to be their mommy’ meme right before my eyes.”
He Needs Tough Love
Clearly, there are a number of very harsh comments, but they may well have a point. It sounds a lot like the OP does not know how to handle this situation and may require some tough love. He never really states what he will do to improve his hygiene, just that it is already fine.
He’s Resistant to Change
The interesting part of the story is that OP seems very resistant to changing his ways. He continually just states that his girlfriend has changed her response to these situations.
She’s Lost Patience
She has lost her patience and, up until now, has been conforming to what he wants.
What’s He Doing Wrong?
He now finds himself in an unfamiliar situation where he doesn’t believe he is doing anything wrong because it has been put up with until now.
Quick Changes are Needed
He is unwilling to admit that he should probably change his ways to stay with his frustrated girlfriend. It sounds like she has had enough, and now he needs to make some quick changes to stay in her good graces.
Has She Reached Her Limits?
Clearly, the OP’s girlfriend has reached her limits on how much she will put up with his disgusting habits and hygiene.
“Frankly, after being threatened with such an ultimatum, I’d stop making any kind of dinner for him or do any other house chores.”
The Community Can Relate
Clearly, the readers can feel and relate to her newfound anger towards OP’s disrespectful expectations. It appears as if people are on the girlfriend’s wavelength where. They need to protect the relationship by growing up and fixing their issue before it becomes too late.
Lifelong Behavior
OP already has his girlfriend do so many things for him it will no doubt be difficult to make drastic changes for him to ease the tension between them and alter the lifelong behavior that he is struggling to change.
A Solution Is Needed
In this situation, it appears that there is a disagreement about how to handle laundry and that the girlfriend’s comments about OP’s hygiene are hurtful and cause tension in the relationship. It may be helpful for OP and his girlfriend to have an open and respectful conversation about their different perspectives and try to find a solution that works for both of them.
Do They Need Third-Party Intervention?
This could involve trying different laundry strategies, seeking input from a neutral third party, or addressing any underlying concerns about hygiene or communication in the relationship.
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