A man recently went to a popular online community to ask if he was in the wrong for completely turning off his phone while on a trip with his buddy.
He Likes His Phone-Free Weekend Trips with His Buddies
“My best friend and I have a tradition of taking a yearly weekend trip together that’s phone-free. We’ve been doing this for a decade now.”
Not Completely Disconnected, But Just Enough
“These weekend trips consist of us staying in a suite and exploring the city, not traversing the wilderness, so it’s not like we’re completely disconnected.”
But a Phone Is Always Handy – Just in Case
“Still, we liked to keep one on hand for navigation and emergency purposes, and it would usually be a friend’s phone that we brought along.”
It Was the First Vacation Since He and His Wife Moved In
“My friend and I left for our trip this year two Fridays ago to make use of the long weekend. This getaway was the first time I’ve gone on one of these trips since my Wife and I moved in together, got engaged, or married.”
“However, we had been dating for the last two years worth of trips, and she seemed fine during that time. I would tell her I would be busy for the weekend, and she’d leave me alone.”
A Massive Behavior Change from His Wife
“I understand that there are different expectations once you get married, but I didn’t expect the 180-degree change in behavior. My Wife demanded I take my phone as well in case she needed to get ahold of me despite her having my friend’s number.”
He Let His Wife Know They Made It
“I let her know I had arrived, and immediately after that, she was texting me and asking me how things were. Then again, asking me another question when I still needed to respond to the first one. I eventually muted our text conversation because I was sick of the phone buzzing.”
She Got Upset and Called Him
“She called me a few hours later and asked why I wasn’t responding to her texts. I reiterated that this was supposed to be a no-phone weekend and kept the call short despite her trying to drag out the conversation.”
And She Called Again And Again
“She called me once more after this. I TURNED OFF MY PHONE when I answered and found out it wasn’t an emergency.”
Then She Started Calling His Friend
“The calls started coming in for my friend, and he followed suit. We spent the rest of the weekend with our phones off until the drive back on Monday.”
He Checked in On the Way Home and Received Bad News
“I called my Wife and informed her when we were about 30 minutes away from my place, and she was furious. She said that there ended up being an emergency (her sister got into a car accident that won’t affect her long-term but still resulted in broken bones) and that I had just ignored her the entire time when she needed me.”
He Was Sorry, But It Wasn’t His Fault
“I told her that I was very sorry to hear about her sister, but it wasn’t my fault she had essentially forced my hand into cutting off means of communication.
His Wife Left Because of His Turned-Off Phone
“She went to stay with a friend before I arrived home that night and has since come home, but she’s still fuming.”
The Poster Asked the Online Community to Weigh in On His Decision
He explained his behavior:
He turned off his phone to enjoy a technology-free weekend and thus missed an important call from his Wife. Also, the missed call could’ve been avoided if he hadn’t turned off his phone, which isn’t the best practice on a trip like this.
All he wants to know is if he was wrong.
The Forum Weighed In
“Whether you admit it or not, I’m sure you show a not-so-subtle preference for your ‘friend’ in a thousand ways, including your willingness to take phone calls at inappropriate times and your insistence on taking a ‘phone-free’ getaway. You claim your Wife wouldn’t want these things, but it’s unlikely you ever asked.”
Not A Clingy Wife at All
“Definitely YTA. I started reading the post, and it was a ‘clingy wife’ and maybe use location services and schedule a talk time – but this was a romantic partner for YEARS. How did you even marry this poor girl??? You should do her a favor and divorce her so she can live with someone who will cherish her.”
There’s No “Gray Area” for His Friendship
“Yeah, I read through OP’s comments and thought, ‘This is not how the original post makes it seem…’ For that alone, OP, YTA. You’re the bigger AH for continuing your ‘gray area’ relationship with this ‘friend’ and expecting your Wife to just go along with it. No wonder she doesn’t feel comfortable with it all.”
One Commenter Blamed Them Both
“She’s definitely in the wrong for blowing up your phone, and it’s just a weekend. If she was okay with it in the past, it seems odd that she would be so upset over it. But why does your trip need to be phone-free?”
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“You say that your wife was okay with it in the past, but it also sounds like you didn’t check with her so much as ‘announce’ that you’d be away.”
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