Moving into a new neighborhood can be difficult. But when one person tries to be friendly with their new neighbors, they find themselves struggling to connect with a stay-at-home mom with four small children. Find out why the person is being criticized for excluding the new neighbor from activities, and whether they were in the wrong.
New Neighbor Alert
A woman living in a small neighborhood is struggling to connect with their new neighbors, a couple in their late twenties with four small children.
Bad Vibes
Despite trying to be friendly, the woman doesn’t like the vibe of the new neighbors and is put off by the wife’s behavior. The wife is a stay-at-home mom, and the husband is a trucker.
No Kids Allowed
The woman has two female neighbors who are around the same age as them, and they often go on walks, have lunch at each other’s houses, and spend time together. However, the new neighbors have four young children, and the woman is hesitant to invite them to activities.
A Wrong Assumption
“I invited the new neighbor, Molly, to two different things. Lunch at my house and also a walk/hike me and the others were going on. Both time she just assumed she could bring her kids and showed up to my house with them,” the woman said.
She Turned Her Kids Away
During lunch at their house, the woman turned Molly away because they didn’t want four rowdy kids under the age of six in their non-childproof house. Molly was upset because she had no one who could ever watch her kids, and she couldn’t come without them.
A Ruined Walk
Molly did bring her kids on a walk with the woman and their other neighbors, but they couldn’t go in the forest because of her stroller, which ruined things for them.
Avoidance Is the Best Tactic
“Since then, I’ve been avoiding Molly like the plague. I just don’t want to be her friend,” the woman said. “She’s invited me over, asked to come over and bring her kids, she even asked me to watch her kids the other day so she can have a break.”
Inappropriate Behavior
The woman barely knows Molly, and they feel like her behavior is pretty inappropriate, and she’s maybe just not picking up on social cues.
Oops
However, when the woman and their other neighbors went for a walk in the forest, Molly saw them go and texted the woman to ask why she wasn’t invited.
A Mother or a Friend – Pick One
“I said it’s because we don’t want our plans to be altered by her children, and she’s expressed that she can’t do anything without her children,” the woman said. “She went on a rant about how it takes a village, and we don’t understand what it’s like, and she called us all jerks.”
She Doesn’t Understand
The woman agrees with Molly that they don’t understand what it’s like, but they feel like she’s being unreasonable to expect them to have a bad time so that she can have a good time.
A Jerk or Ignorant
The woman’s husband thinks Molly is a jerk, but their mom thinks they should be more sympathetic.
Am I The Drama
Despite the woman’s reasoning, some people are criticizing them for not being more sympathetic to a mom with four kids. The woman is now questioning whether they were in the wrong for excluding Molly from activities.
Seen From Both Sides
Many people have commented on the post, with some taking the person’s side and others defending Molly. Some people have suggested that the woman could have been more clear about their expectations when inviting Molly, while others have criticized Molly for assuming that she could bring her kids to everything.
A Heated Debate
The post has sparked a heated debate about parenting, social cues, and the responsibilities of neighbors. Some people believe that the woman was right to exclude Molly, while others think that they should have been more understanding of her situation.
The Internet Responded
One commenter said, ” I have three kids and have been a SAHM for years. When I am invited somewhere, I always assume my kids aren’t invited and make arrangements accordingly.”
More Internet Comments
This person wrote, “I have two kids, and none of my friends have kids. You never assume your kids are invited.”
A Final Comment
This comment said, “I mean, the invitation thing to me is pretty close. They both assumed something about what the other person thought that just wasn’t true. To me, that’s just miscommunication.”
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