Wedding days can be filled with joy, but they can also be filled with drama. One recent bride shares with an online group her story of wedding day drama revolving around her mother-in-law and an unexpected, unwanted wedding speech.
No Speeches, Please
The bride, who we’ll call Christine, hates speeches and has never understood their appeal. She thinks “they are tedious, exhausting, and very, very forced” but has never pushed their beliefs on anyone else. When it was Jessica’s turn to get married, she requested no speeches. She wrote that they “loved everyone and that we knew they loved us, so if you want to say anything, say it to us in private.” Her husband thought it was funny, but he knew her feelings about speeches.
Mother-In-Law Had Other Ideas
They had a small wedding with only loved ones. Dinner came, and Christine’s mother-in-law stood up and said, “I know we are forbidden to make speeches by the bride, but this is my only son getting married, so I will do what I want to…” Christine, her sisters, and her bridesmaids were shocked and continued their conversations as if she weren’t speaking.
Furious In-Laws
Christine’s in-laws and husband were furious, insisting she was wrong in doing what she did. Christine couldn’t force his mother to be quiet, and he knew she wouldn’t, no matter how often they asked her. Christine’s husband said she shouldn’t have disrespected and humiliated his mother, who loves making long, mean-spirited speeches disguised as humor.
Who Was Right? Who Was Wrong?
Christine wanted to know if she was wrong for ignoring her mother-in-law’s speech, and internet users weighed in and offered their opinions.
The Mother-In-Law Was Out of Order, and So Was the Husband
Some think that the mother-in-law was out of line for disregarding her new daughter-in-law’s wishes, and so was the new husband for backing up his mother instead of supporting his new wife. “Well, that’s unfortunate that the day you got married, you found out your husband’s always going to pick his mom over you,” someone writes. “Such disrespect from her,” they continue.
The Husband Should Have Supported His Wife
The husband’s lack of backbone and unwillingness to back Christine up were offensive to numerous posters, with one saying Christine has “every right to have her wishes respected. Then her mother-in-law had the audacity to call her out. Christine is going to have a heck of a time setting boundaries with that one. Good luck.”
The Bride Was Rude and Disrespectful
Some users in the online forum feel the mother-in-law was in the wrong. However, they also believe the bride overreacted. “Sure, the mother-in-law should not have been making a toast at your wedding because you asked everyone not to. It’s incomprehensible to me that you would be this rude to your future mother-in-law on your wedding day,” someone observes.
It’s His Wedding, Too
Other responders on the thread urge the bride to remember that it was her husband’s wedding, too, and she insulted his mother. One states, “You displayed particularly poor behavior in talking during your husband’s mother’s speech. Regardless of your request for no speeches, everyone will remember that.”
Both Women Behaved Badly
Numerous online community members believe that everyone in the situation – Christine, the groom, and the mother-in-law – all share some blame for the speech debacle. “She did the ONE thing you told her not to do, but the wedding is not all about you. Your husband is another person and has a family of people, and you were petty to them. But then again, she was rude to you,” admonishes one person.
The Bride Should Have Taken the High Road
“You asked her not to do one thing, and she did it anyway, but you were publicly rude about it and have likely damaged any relationship you could have had with your mother-in-law. Also, you upset your husband, whose feelings should matter to you,” somebody opines.
Equal Displays of Disrespect
At the same time, another user remarks, “Yes, she crossed a line by disrespecting you and your husband’s wishes by making a speech. Still, you lowered yourself and showed you could be equally disrespectful by ignoring her. It should have been dealt with privately later by your husband.”
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