A man took to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole (AITA) to ask if he was right to go at his wife to wash the dishes properly. Talking of how neglectful she is with chores, he said she always leaves residue on the plates as she does not pay attention. He told readers he asked her to stop being disrespectful and said he brought his wife to the sink to show her how to do it properly.
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Typical Misogyny?
These actions brought some concern to readers concerned that this led his wife to cry. One person said, “This sub is disgustingly sexist and favors women unfairly even when they’re wrong.” Another said, “The only issue I have is with you losing it, then bringing her over to the sink. Depending on how angry you were, that can be intimidating.” At first, many people agreed with this statement, and many questions were asked regarding how he acted toward his wife.
In His Defense, They Share Chores
The OP edited his post to stress that he was not as aggressive as his post suggests and wasn’t talking to her loudly to come to watch him. He said he was frustrated as she appeared to be spaced out and not listening, and this is how she always is.
The OP then said that it is not just the dishes she is terrible at, as she does not generally like doing housework. He also pointed out that he does a lot of chores in the house and knows how to do things properly. This led to many people saying he was not the a**hole, with one person commenting, “I read all three edits and some comments, and I don’t understand how people are trying to call you an AH. Someone, please explain.”
She Can Clean When She Wants to
Many people commented that the wife might have deliberately done a lousy job, which the OP alluded to, to avoid any future chores. One person said, “Honestly, it sounds like a case of deliberate incompetence. Where she does a bad job in the hopes that OP will get tired of fighting over it all the time and do the chores themselves.”.
This may be the case as the OP said that when guests are over, his wife magically knows how to vacuum correctly and clean things well, including the plates. It was clear that he was very frustrated by his wife’s actions, but he did not seem to have any empathy for her, which left Reddit fans divided.
Is it Possible That His Wife Has ADHD?
There seems to be much more going on in the marriage than in this post, with one person saying, “I think OP and his partner need to seriously discuss whether they’re a good fit for each other.”
Another person commented that there might be more to his wife’s inability to concentrate, saying, “She sounds exactly like me, and I have ADHD. I struggle with simple chores as well. How about you look into that?”. Other people agreed and asked that he seek help for her.
While many people claimed that the OP was an a**hole, his latest updates meant that many people changed their minds and believed that his wife was the a**hole.