Wedding planning can be a stressful experience for many couples, especially when dealing with overbearing in-laws.
A recent Reddit post has caused a stir after a bride-to-be shared her frustration about her future mother-in-law’s decision to wear a grey dress to their wedding, despite being explicitly asked not to.
The post reads, “Me and my fiancé are planning a wedding. It should be a small, intimate ceremony only with family members and a few friends. We asked our guests to leave their kids at home and let them know I would wear a light grey dress and that we would appreciate it if women avoided wearing grey. Yet, my future MIL decided to ignore our only request and got herself a grey dress, rather similar to mine.”
The bride-to-be asked her mother-in-law to reconsider her decision multiple times, but she refused, saying that the bride and groom should get used to not having everything their way. The bride is now considering excluding her mother-in-law from the wedding due to her disrespect.
A thread divided
The post has received a mixed response from commenters, with some siding with the bride and others suggesting that both parties are at fault.
The post on Reddit has generated a range of responses from commenters, each with their take on the situation. Some commenters have expressed their support for the bride and her frustration with her mother-in-law’s behavior. They believe that the mother-in-law is being unreasonable and disrespectful by ignoring the couple’s request and insist that the bride and groom have the right to make their own decisions for their special day. One commenter even went as far as to suggest that the mother-in-law should not attend the wedding if she cannot respect the couple’s wishes.
“NTA (Not the a**hole). It sounds like you are dealing with a Monster In Law. Tell her that after talking things over, since she is not willing to compromise, it is in her best interest that she doesn’t come to the wedding. It’s your wedding, not hers. It’s the one day you DO get to have everything your way.”
On the other hand, others believe the bride and the mother-in-law are at fault. They argue that the bride should have discussed her dress code preference with her fiancé before making a unilateral decision, and that the fiancé should have been more assertive in communicating the request to his mother. Some also suggest that the mother-in-law may not have realized the significance of wearing a grey dress to a wedding and that the couple should have been more understanding and willing to compromise.
“ESH (Everyone sucks here). You have a fiancé problem. You are wearing a grey wedding dress. Everyone knows you do not wear the same color as the bride to a wedding. Your fiancé should have immediately told her, ‘Get a new dress, or she is out,’ She knows better than to wear the same color as the bride to a wedding. You because you shouldn’t make a unilateral decision. You both need to agree.”
So, who is in the right?
Is the bride-to-be upset about her future mother-in-law’s disregard for their wishes, or does the mother-in-law feel she has the right to wear what she wants to the wedding?
On the one hand, it’s understandable that the bride-to-be wants her wedding to go as smoothly as possible and has made specific requests for her guests to follow. On the other hand, the mother-in-law may feel she has the right to wear whatever she wants to the wedding and may not see the harm in wearing a grey dress.
However, it’s important to remember that weddings are a special day for the bride and groom, and respecting their wishes is essential, even if it means compromising personal preferences. Ultimately, it’s up to the bride and groom to decide how to handle the situation and ensure their wedding day is as stress-free as possible.
In conclusion, wedding planning can be challenging, especially with overbearing in-laws. The key to a successful wedding day is open communication, compromise, and respect for each other’s wishes. While it may not always be easy, working together and finding common ground can create a memorable and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.