A woman shared her story, looking for advice and support after discovering that her sister-in-law was also her stepdaughter.
In-Laws Divorcing
She began by saying, “My in-laws are going through a divorce. They’re both nasty people in their own right, and my father-in-law was trying to weasel his way out of paying child support.”
The Paternity Test
A paternity test was done on all four of her in-law’s children. “He reached out to us last weekend to share his findings,” she said. “We found out that my sister-in-law was actually my husband’s daughter.”
A Father at 14
This meant the woman’s husband would have been 14 when she was conceived, and the mother was his own mother. She told readers, “My mother-in-law is refusing to answer any questions that came from this bombshell and is hiding behind her lawyer.”
Husband Said He Was Abused
She said her husband never willingly had sex with his mother. However, there was some abuse from his mother that led to him becoming estranged from her.
Doesn’t Want to Talk
Her husband is struggling to talk about it, saying he doesn’t remember much. But she said it seems to have deeply traumatized him.
Shocked
She finished by saying, “I’m just shocked. I just don’t know where to go from here or what to do.”
Arrange a Paternity Test
One man suggested, “ I would get a paternity test outside of your FIL’s. You said he isn’t that great of a person. So, it’s totally possible he knew of what MIL was doing to your husband and is using it to his advantage.”
Traumatic Abuse
Another person said, “I know that many incest survivors block out a lot of traumatic abuse just to survive. I believe your husband has probably done just that to keep from losing his mind.”
Therapy
They went on to say, “I hope you and him are in therapy because it’s the best place to start to try to sort out your feelings. People like your MIL are soulless, and she should be in prison. I doubt your husband was her first or last victim.”
Sister-In-Law Needs Therapy Too
The same person said, “If your SIL knows, she may need therapy too. Any others living in the MIL’s home may need protection, so I hope the authorities are involved to deal with that.”
Don’t Be Mad at Him
One woman said, “I know this is wildly baffling to you, but please don’t be mad at your husband. He was a child when this happened. She is a predator, and it is not his fault.”
Press Charges
Another woman said, “I don’t know what things she did to him, but the MIL needs to have charges put against her. This is not right.”
It Takes Time To Process
Another person said, “I was abused by my father when I was a child. I just barely started facing that. It takes time to process, and you need to be there for him.”
Don’t Forget Your Own Mental Health
One commenter reminded her, “Don’t forget about your own mental health in dealing with all of this. Being there for him can be incredibly stressful, so don’t neglect yourself.”
Not Ready to Talk Yet
Another person said, “He may not be ready to talk about it yet, but make sure he knows you’ll listen when he is. I understand the urge to do something, anything, to fix it, but sometimes a person just needs time.”
A Victim
Other advice included, “He needs to know that he is a victim, not a perpetrator. Don’t let him convince himself otherwise.”
Sympathy
Others just wanted to express their sympathy at a difficult time. One person said, “My sympathies to your husband, his sister/daughter, and really all of the family except MIL.”
Should Never Have Happened
Another said, “This should never have happened, but I understand your (and your husband’s) anguish. Myself, my bf, and bf’s twin brother have all been victims of this atrocious crime.”
Therapy Really Helps
The commenter went on to say, “Therapy has helped us to varying extents. BF and his bro only found out as adults and are in the process of therapy. My younger sister was also a victim of abuse and spent years ignoring it and refusing therapy.”
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