Inheritances and disputes over possessions can sometimes ignite intense emotions and strained relationships. Such is the case for one woman who finds herself in a state of devastation and resentment after her husband inherits all of his late grandmother’s cherished jewelry. Firmly believing that the heirlooms should have been exclusively bestowed upon her, she stands resolute in her claim, unwilling to let go of her conviction. As the clash over entitlement unfolds, questions arise regarding the legitimacy of her expectations and whether her adamant stance holds any justification.
She And Her Husband Are Fairly Close
They’re both in their early thirties, have been together for seven years, and she says he takes “good care” of her.
“We don’t have any kids since I’m not a big fan of them,” she says.
His Grandmother Passed Away Two Weeks Ago
She died peacefully in her sleep, and both she and her husband were close to her, but the OP was especially close to her.
“We had similar tastes in fashion, jewelry, and makeup, and we really bonded discussing different products.”
The In-Laws Haven’t Been Very Welcoming
“My family-in-law hasn’t been very accepting of me, and she was the only one who really cared to know me better.”
Both she and her husband were devastated by her passing.
The Funeral Provided Some Closure
Attending the grandmother’s funeral helped the OP and her partner accept the loss and begin to move on.
But here’s where she feels she may have been the jerk.
She Got Nothing In The Will
“In his grandmother’s will, she gave him all her jewelry and me nothing. We were both quite surprised by this, as what would he have to do with jewelry?”
Her husband tried to pacify the OP by saying that he’d played dress-up with his grandma when he was a child so that probably explained the decision.
She Told Him He Should Just Give It To Her
Her reasoning was that she would obviously have more use for it than he would and that at least this way it won’t be stashed somewhere “gathering dust”.
“He told me that wasn’t what he wanted, and he wanted it for nostalgia purposes. I thought that was ridiculous, and I told him as much.”
It Was The Only Thing He Got In The Will
Her husband quickly became upset with her suggestion and said he wanted to keep it for himself.
“He then said that I was being insensitive and I should just let him have the jewelry. I left it [at] that in the moment.”
Later She Accused Him Of Being Selfish And Inconsiderate Of Her Needs
This has caused a rift to form between the two and their relationship hasn’t been the same since.
“He’s been cold with me ever since, and I’ve been doing the same. I think he should at least apologize to me for being so greedy, as he wouldn’t even let me have one necklace.”
She Thinks She’s Being Rational
She doesn’t think she’s being the jerk, but she’s open to other opinions.
So naturally, she took to an online forum for some answers.
Forum Users Didn’t Hold Back
Let’s just say that most agreed she is most definitely being the jerk here.
“His dead grandma’s jewelry has nothing to do with your ‘needs.’”
Cold-hearted And Selfish
Many users accused her of ignoring her partner’s feelings and needs.
“Why are you trying to make this grief and his personal relationship with his grandmother all about you?”
No Wonder The Family Hasn’t Accepted Her
Many users stated simply that if the grandmother had wanted the OP to have the jewelry, she would have left it to her.
“You sound very entitled. Yes, you’re the a jerk.”
Someone Even Accused Her Of Being A ‘Magpie’
Magpies famously love (and will steal) anything shiny – including jewelry.
“If you see something glittering, do your neck feathers bristle? Then you may want to consider consulting an ornithologist.”
She Could Be Lying
One user questioned whether the OP was really that close to the grandmother.
“Is she really insinuating that she was closer to the grandmother than her husband, who was raised with the woman his entire life, who played dress up with grandma’s jewelry in his childhood?”
Robowoman
“Well, she did say she and her husband were ‘fairly close’ during their seven year marriage. How sweet. She sounds like she’s talking about a neighbor or co-worker.
She sounds ‘fairly robotic’ to me.”
They Questioned Her Needs
The OP accused her husband of forsaking her needs, and the online community posters aren’t letting it go.
“Her need to want what she wants and to sulk until she gets what she wants.”
Everyone’s Ripping Her Apart
“Which you deserve,” one user suggested. But also questioned her “need” for the jewelry, when her husband would probably let her borrow it.
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