Family dynamics can be complex, and the longing for familiarity and involvement is often an important factor in keeping strong bonds. However, what happens when one person takes their expectations of family involvement to excessive levels, leading to devastating effects? In this heart-wrenching story, we delve into the tale of a woman who, guided by her vision of family connection, ripped apart her brother’s relationship.
They’re A Tight Bunch.
The woman explains that she’s a single mom (the dad skipped out on them), but her family is close-knit and supports each other – except for one person.
“The problem started when he met his girlfriend at university. At the start, I was truly happy for him, especially since he’d talked to me about wanting to ask her out ever since he heard of her from her classmates. What I didn’t like is that she didn’t care much to keep in contact with us, even after being together for well over a year. She was always too busy to meet our family.”
He Adored Her.
The girlfriend leads a busy life.
“He told me she was an amazing cook, was kind, brilliant, etc., and he wanted to marry her and travel with her back to her country once she finished her Ph.D. He’d always talk to us about how lucky he was to be dating her (she’s a judge) and how her government was financing her.”
Hints Of Jealousy.
The woman admits she is a little resentful of the girlfriend’s life.
“I’ll admit, knowing a childless woman wasn’t working and was paid more money than me, on top of having her rent and other things covered, stung a little, but it had nothing to do with my dislike of her.”
She Didn’t Seem To Want To Be A Part Of The Family.
The woman claims there was always an excuse as to why the girlfriend didn’t want to hang out.
“On the rare occasions she was free, she was either traveling to see her family, hosting friends, or wanted to be alone.”
She Thought She Was Ghosting Them.
She noticed the girlfriend began pulling away more.
“I didn’t buy that she didn’t have any time for us because she doesn’t work and was always at home, but she stopped accepting my visits and refused anything to do with my son as well, which slowly distanced my brother. She wouldn’t even babysit when my parents were out of town and I needed her to watch him so I could work. Personally, I don’t think she’s as kind as my brother thought.”
They Called Her Out.
The family visited her and wanted answers.
“We were upset but tried our best to explain why her distance and refusal to help was unacceptable since she doesn’t work and has free time. I told her I wished she’d be more caring, and she got increasingly angrier, but said nothing.”
He Didn’t Stand Up For Her.
The girlfriend asked her partner what his opinion was on the subject.
“He told her he didn’t want to take sides.”
It Pushed Her Away Indefinitely.
This inquisition and the lack of interjection from her boyfriend confirmed the woman’s preference for being unattached.
“She said that this was ‘another example of why she felt so resistant to the idea of getting into a relationship,’ that ‘she couldn’t take it anymore and felt better being alone’ and then broke up with him.”
Everyone Was Shocked.
Her boyfriend tried to do some damage control, but she threw them all out.
“Now I’m feeling guilty, and my brother won’t speak to us because I ruined his relationship, and she’s irreducible. She isn’t bothering to listen to anyone in our family, and I’m afraid there’s no way to fix this. AITA or did she overreact?”
She Wanted An Answer.
So she asked an online forum – and they didn’t hold back. One person said, “YTA. Not her responsibility to watch your child(ren) or be there for your whims/amusement. And be honest with yourself: the fact that she is childless and does have free time bothers you. You are not entitled to her time. Keep repeating that to yourself until it gets through to you.”
Absolute Nonsense.
Users picked out many holes in this woman’s testimony.
“Also wanted to add that she does work if she’s a judge. She’s doing a Ph.D. as well, which is a full-time job.”
Shocking Levels Of Entitlement.
Users ripped the woman a new one.
“Yeah… ‘She’s a Ph.D. student and a judge, but she doesn’t have kids, how can she be busy?’ My god… the combination of entitlement and profound ignorance is quite staggering.”
Jealous And Insecure.
Many people detected feelings of hatred based on jealousy. One user said, “Gotta love that OP [original poster] couldn’t even hide her true feelings about the girlfriend. Even when she’s pretending to be neutral towards the woman, her narration is dripping with contempt. I mean, how dare a ‘childless’ woman not drop everything to take care of [someone else’s] child?! How dare she help other people and not her?! How dare she dump her boyfriend after he allowed his family to attack her in her own home verbally?!”
Toxic Family.
Users fully sympathized with why the girlfriend kept her distance and respected her for not putting up with their toxic behavior.
“I’m obsessed with this woman who leads a full, busy, enriching life, and at the first sniff of anyone attempting to disrupt that, she cuts them all loose for her own sanity and peace.”
The Boyfriend Is Just As Bad.
As well as OP being majorly wrong here – so is her brother.
“Girlfriend was smart enough to ditch OP’s brother. When he decided to remain neutral, he ended his own relationship. OP’s family should come with a warning.”
HIS HOA DEMANDS THE REMOVAL OF SECURITY CAMERAS: THEIR OVERSIGHT TRIGGERS A LEGAL BACKLASH, ENTRAPPING THEM IN A RIDICULOUSLY EXPENSIVE LOOPHOLE!
A couple bought surveillance cameras to monitor their property, which inadvertently waged a costly war with their HOA.
She Demands Her Brother Share His Daughter’s Inheritance With Her Stepdaughter – Who Wasn’t Bequeathed Anything!
When it comes to family dynamics, few things can stir up emotions, quite like inheritance disputes. A contentious situation has emerged in an unfolding saga that tests the bonds of blood and challenges the concept of fairness. At the center of this narrative stands a sister who adamantly demands her brother to share his daughter’s inheritance with her stepdaughter, who, to her dismay, was not bequeathed anything. She Demands Her Brother Share His Daughter’s Inheritance With Her Stepdaughter – Who Wasn’t Bequeathed Anything!
HE ISSUES AN ULTIMATUM: IN-LAWS MUST VACATE OR HIS DAUGHTER’S DOOR REMAINS LOCKED IN A HEART-WRENCHING POWER STRUGGLE
OP’s brother-in-law, Sammy, moved in with his twin daughters, Olivia and Sloane, after losing his home due to a divorce. OP’s daughter, Zoey, is 16 years old and gets along fine with her cousins, but they do not respect her privacy.