Watching her son throw away a terrific girlfriend was painful to watch, but when his girlfriend finally breaks up with him and moves on, she can’t help but empathize with her reasoning, and she shares this insight with her son.
Motherly Acceptance
Her son had been in a long-distance relationship for about two years. It was a great relationship, and they all welcomed his girlfriend with open arms. She was a lovely girl and really brought out the best in her son.
A Long Distance Relationship
The only downside was that she lived two hours away, so it required time, planning, and effort to organize a meet-up. It could sometimes be difficult to fit their plans around the rest of their lives.
Making Effort
They saw a lot of his girlfriend as she often came to visit. She was flying there constantly to visit him, like a weekend a month at the very least. If she had more available time, she’d come as often as she could, and they allowed her to stay for as long as she wanted.
Moving Cities
His girlfriend had more recently confided that she’d consider moving to their city. She deeply cared for her son and expressed her love for his family as well as the city that they lived in.
A One-Sided Effort
Despite the girl’s frequent visits, her son never made an effort to fly over and see her. It was very one-sided, with his girlfriend making all of the plans as well as spending the money on costly flights.
A Parent’s Concern
She tried talking to her son about it multiple times, emphasizing the importance of putting in the effort, and suggested he visit her. However, he adamantly refused, saying it wasn’t an issue.
Parental Influence
Her husband may have played a part in his reluctance to travel, as he often expressed concerns about his flying. He was a nervous passenger at the best of times and freely discussed his concerns about plane crashes.
A Fair Condition
She felt it was fair for his girlfriend to expect him to visit her if she was willing to move to their city. Plus, it would be a good experience for him to travel and see the city where his girlfriend lived.
A Stubborn Refusal
Despite all the advice and opportunities, her son refused to travel and became increasingly complacent. She received calls from his girlfriend a couple of times asking if he was okay as he hadn’t been in touch. As a mother, it was a difficult position to be in.
A Breakup
A week later, her son revealed that his girlfriend had broken up with him. It didn’t come as a major shock, considering the lack of effort he had put into the relationship. But it was a shame; they seemed a very happy couple when they were together.
Seeking Answers
She decided to investigate, and upon visiting his ex-girlfriend’s Facebook page, it seemed she was already seeing someone new. She had shared photos of herself and a young guy; there was no denying that she looked happy.
A Candid Conversation
She confessed to both her son and his ex-girlfriend that she actually agreed with her decision to break up with her son, considering how he had treated her and his overall lack of effort.
A Hope for Learning
She told him that he should learn from this experience and make more effort in his future relationships. She mentioned that he deserved the breakup due to his lack of investment in the relationship.
The Upset Reactions
Both her husband and son were deeply upset by her candidness. Her husband even accused her of being horrible! She argued that a lack of effort doesn’t warrant anyone working hard word at maintaining a relationship. It needed to be a two-way effort.
Angered Son
Her son was upset and said he was really angry at understanding the breakup. He argued that his own mother should be battling his corner, not that of his ex-girlfriend.
United Sadness
She said that no one would stick around if they were doing all the work, and that was the case in his relationship. She added that it was upsetting for everyone as the whole family was fond of her.
An Affair
Next thing, her son declared that his ex was obviously cheating on him anyway, and it wasn’t due to him making no effort. He said he’d seen her social media accounts and that her new boyfriend was ‘all over her page!’ He denied all blame.
It’s Karma
Angrily, she told her son that she didn’t believe for a second that she’d been cheating and that she’d even been prepared to move cities to be closer to him! She also said that she didn’t blame her for moving on and that she deserves happiness! She told him it was karma, and that you get out what you put in!
Sticking to her Guns
Her son stormed off and said he was livid at her for being so cruel. However, while she did feel a certain guilt, she fully believed that she had to instill the right values into her son to help him learn that two-way effort is crucial for the success of a relationship!
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