OP is a 30-year-old individual who has always been told by their father that he would pay for their wedding. However, since starting a relationship with a woman with radical views, the father has demanded that the wedding must be vegan, including shoes, alcohol, and clothing worn by other guests.
She’s Judgmental
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/judge-2.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
The father’s partner is judgmental of how the OP lives and has accused them of attempting to steal her father’s inheritance, which the OP denies.
They Shouldn’t Attend the Wedding
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/The-Wedding-Industry-1.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
The OP has decided that it’s best for their father and his partner not to attend the wedding because of the partner’s behavior towards the OP’s mother and the partner’s constant lecturing about veganism.
She Has Extreme Views
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/MSN-IMAGES-48.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
The OP’s father’s partner appears to have very extreme views and is attempting to control aspects of the wedding that go beyond the food.
She’s Expressed Concern
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Couple-Coffee.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
The OP has expressed concern about the partner’s judgmental behavior towards their lifestyle choices, which suggests that the partner is attempting to impose their beliefs on the OP.
She’s Suspicious for No Reason
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Woman-Thinking.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
Additionally, the partner’s accusations of the OP trying to steal her father’s inheritance appear unfounded, indicating that the partner may be paranoid or suspicious for no reason.
It’s Your Wedding and Your Decision
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Be-affectionate-1-1.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
One commenter states, “He broke a promise, tries to make everything about him, and his new partner causes tension, which is definitely not what a wedding is for. It‘s your wedding and your decision. They dug their own grave and basically uninvited themselves.”
She’s Causing More Harm Than Good
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/MSN-IMAGES-79.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
It’s understandable that the OP would not want their guests to be lectured about veganism, especially if the OP’s guests have their own beliefs and preferences. While the OP’s father may have good intentions, his partner’s behavior appears to be causing more harm than good.
It’s a Reasonable Decision
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Celebrity-2023-04-01T114803.757.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
The OP has made a reasonable decision to exclude their father and his partner from their wedding, given the partner’s behavior towards the OP’s mother and the risk of disruption to the wedding day.
She Feels Betrayed
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Celebrity-2023-05-06T120843.110.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
Well, the OP writes the following explanation for why they think they might be in the wrong:
“I might be the AH because I have uninvited my dad to my wedding because our views differ so much. I want him there in my heart, but he’s making it impossible. Some of his side of the family think I am wrong to do so, but I don’t know, I feel betrayed.”
Trying To Do Her Best In A Bad Situation
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/Celebrity-2023-05-08T113748.300.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
Although initially, the OP sounds like she may be going too far, after reading all the comments and the full article, she definitely is just trying to do the best for her and her partner in a bad situation.
What’s the Solution?
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/MSN-IMAGES-47.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
Can everyone come out on top in this scenario? It’s unclear.
The Community Came Through With a Solution
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Paper-Notes-Question-Mark.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
However, one reader suggests, “Just invite your dad without a plus one. Mention that a vegan option will be available just to show you’re taking the first step. Of course, he will refuse to come along, and then, you just say how sorry you are he can’t make it. Checkmate in one move. Problem solved.”
Is That Petty?
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/MSN-IMAGES-34.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
Perhaps that’s petty, but perhaps it’s also a solution! It’s the OP’s big day, after all, and if she feels torn, this may be the best solution.
How About A Rational Conversation?
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Thinking-Woman.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
Or maybe the OP can be a little less dramatic and instead have a rational conversation with her dad.
“From the title, I was going with you’re the jerk, but after reading her post, it’s definitely not the jerk. Tell your father you really want him there at your wedding but don’t want the drama involved.”
Does He Want to Miss Out on a Once in a Million Opportunity?
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/White-wedding-dress.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
“I mean, if he is the one with the problem, she should put the focus back on him and let him choose whether he wants to swallow his pride and come to the wedding or remain stubborn and lose out on a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to watch his daughter get married. I know what I would do!”
Final Thoughts
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/Untitled-design-2023-05-01T091746.761.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
Overall, it’s important to respect others’ beliefs and preferences, but it’s equally important to ensure that one’s own beliefs are not imposed on others. The OP’s father’s partner appears to be overstepping boundaries and attempting to control aspects of the wedding beyond the food. It’s understandable that the OP would not want to be lectured about veganism on their wedding day, and it’s important to prioritize the comfort and enjoyment of guests on such a special occasion.
She Committed Adultery with Her Son in Law and Silently Fell in Love, but Knowing She Had to Protect Her Daughter’s Marriage, She Was Forced to Move to a Distant City
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/old-woman-deep-in-thought-pondering.jpg)
Image Credit: Shutterstock.
After committing a cardinal sin with her son-in-law, she can’t bring herself to confess and destroy her daughter’s marriage, so she moves to another city despite her heartbreak at leaving her grandchildren.
When a Female Driver Is Unable to Park in a Disabled Parking Space, She Spots an Expensive Car Illegally Parked over Two Disabled Spaces and Decides to Teach the Perpetrator an Expensive Lesson
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/woman-pointing-angry.jpg)
Image Credit: Depositphotos.
The female owner of a disabled parking permit was livid when a gigantic Escalade parked across two designated disabled spots. Cue the fury of someone who had to deal with this all the time; she decided to take matters into her own hands.
“Park in My Driveway and I’ll Park in Yours!” A Woman Tires of Asking Her Neighbors to Stop Parking in Her Spot, so Eventually She Creates a Situation That Means She Has to Use Their Spot, and They’re Not Impressed!
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/woman-frustrated-irritated-hands-up-seriously.jpg)
Image Credit: Depositphotos.
When her neighbors refuse to address an ongoing parking issue, she creates a situation so that she has to park in their spot, and there’s nothing they can do about it. But it works!
One of His Supervisors Tried Calling Him in after He Quit, and She Didn’t Seem to Understand That There Were Dangerous Connotations Behind His Request for Protection
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/man-with-glasses-stressed-hands-on-head.jpg)
Image Credit: Depositphotos.
He had a psychotic ex that stalked him at work, and he simply asked to leave via a different route. But when his supervisors refuse to accept his measly ‘excuses,’ he is forced to quit, and they’re not letting him go easily!
Man Buys Every Last Doughnut When Crafty Drivers Steal His Parking Space, and They’re Horrified after Waiting in a Long Line
![](https://becausemomsays.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/man-crafty-cunning-plotting-thinking-hand-on-chin.jpg)
Image Credit: Depositphotos.
While reversing into a parking spot, a cheeky driver steals his spot, so he seeks revenge in the most petty (but satisfying!) manner possible!