OP and their fiancé are vegan and haven’t eaten meat for over 30 years combined. When they prepared for their wedding, they chose a vineyard location that supplied vegan catering. However, when OP communicated the catering option with their family, they requested for meat options to be present because they weren’t vegan. OP objected, so their family bought pizza instead.
They Do Not Want to Pay for Animals to Be Slaughtered
OP finds it disrespectful that their family cannot go a few hours without meat on a day that is supposed to be about celebrating their relationship. OP and their fiancé are paying for everything and do not want to pay for animals to be slaughtered.
The Catering Provided Many Options
The catering includes 28 options, including traditional dishes that happen to be vegan.
It’s Just a Few People Getting Everyone Riled Up
OP’s family is pretty unanimous in their demand for meat options, but OP thinks it’s just a few people getting everyone riled up. In OP’s culture, bringing gifts to a wedding is not a thing, but their family will still be attending the wedding.
Online Users Share Their Thoughts
Online forum users are generally in agreement that OP’s family is being way too dramatic for this simple issue.
“Exactly. Vegan food is just vegetables. I don’t get meat eaters who think that a vegetable is going to kill them.”
It’s the Reality of Having a Polarizing Menu
That said, the reality is if you choose a polarizing menu for your wedding (whatever the reason or menu), some people won’t like it or they may leave the reception early. That’s just life. This is like having a dry wedding. Of course, it’s your choice, but some people will say “Nope.”
There’s No Reason to Have an Issue With Veggies
As the commenter suggests, it is simply food at the end of the day. There is no reason for OP’s family to have an issue with eating food that is provided for them for the sake of there being too many vegetables.
It’s an Extreme Menu
Moreover, this comment moves to note that OP has what is considered an extreme menu. That being said, it will most likely lead to some people taking issues and leaving the wedding early. Most likely, this would be an acceptable result from having the wedding that OP and their partner want.
Don’t Come to the Wedding if You’re Going to Order Pizza
There are online users who have taken to a more extreme reaction to the disgruntled family members:
“NTA. Anyone who wants to disrespect your lifestyle choice by ordering pizza doesn’t need to be at your wedding. Make it very clear that anyone bringing in outside food or complaining about the food and making a scene will be asked to leave, no matter whose family they are.”
They Can Suck It up for One Meal
“They can suck it up for one meal. Vegan food can be really delicious. You’re not asking them to eat rice cakes and seeds.”
It’s Tremendously Disrespectful
This is a more extreme response that is not necessarily unfair. As the venue is also vegan, the idea of bringing outside non-vegan food is not very appropriate. Additionally, it is a huge disrespect to the OP and her partner, who are simply trying to celebrate themselves on their special day.
You Can’t Please Everyone
It is the rarely spoken but always true rule, you cannot please everyone, particularly at a large event.
“When anyone plans a wedding, not everyone is going to like the menu and not everyone will eat the dinner. I’ve been to weddings where the food was great and I’ve been to weddings where the food was so bad or scarce people grabbed something to eat on their way home. You’ll never be able to please everyone, and food will be wasted regardless of the menu.”
Online Members Supported This Comment
This online member received a lot of support for their comment. They are correct that even were they to serve meat, it is not to say that the food would then be worth having. Any meal can be acceptable or unacceptable, regardless of what it is comprised of.
It’s a Lifestyle Issue
It appears that this has become more of a lifestyle issue that the family is taking aim at, compared to the necessity to eat meat at every point of the day. It is crucial that the OP and their partner make them the priority and not the guests.
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